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- Why Funke Should Not Reveal Her Marriage Problems At This Time
- Meet The Woman With The Largest Afro In The World
- Throwback Thursday - My Mother The Seventies Fashionista
- Couple Love - 2Shotz Sends Wife Birthday Message
- Yes To The Dress - Irene's Wedding Story Featuring Allure 8900
- Klint Da Drunk And Wife on Marriage - Don't Feel Too Big to Apologize
- George Osodi Photographs The Monarchs of Nigeria
- When Is Too Early To Discuss Sex in a New Relationship?
- Some Relationship Red Flags to Look Out For
| Why Funke Should Not Reveal Her Marriage Problems At This Time Posted: 01 Aug 2013 06:36 PM PDT  Funke Akindele has been speaking out about her one year marriage to estranged husband, Kehinde Oloyede, and not in a very flattering way. She describes what led to their current split as verbal and emotional abuse, which I think are good grounds on which to question the foundation of a relationship. However, because there is no divorce yet, and the husband seems to be seeking a reconciliation, I think it's a bit premature for Funke's revelations. The road to the couple's separation became public when Kehinde Oloyede shared a facebook post about it, saying the couple had "agreed to go their separate ways due to irreconcilable differences." Though both parties tried to deny the separation, leading to further online controversy, they finally acknowledged the reports with a public statement from Funke's PR, and a chat with another blogger where she said she would prefer not to talk anymore about the matter. However, barely 2 weeks after the whole incident, Funke Akindele has granted an interview to E24-7 Magazine. The reports goes on to quote Funke as saying; "I was abused emotionally and verbally. Really, I felt we could work things out when the trouble started two months after the marriage, but I made up my mind and shut the door of the marriage at him when the trouble was coming to me too much. I stooped to conquer him; buried my fame and name to make him my husband, but it did not work. At a point in time, I asked if it's not the same man that was all over me before we married. He nearly got me off my career. He called me severally; I did not pick his calls but when he realized my silence was tormenting him, he took to Facebook. It's alright. Ask him when did he come to my house last? He left me here in my rented apartment with nothing and he will just dash in and dash out. He gets abusive, caustic anytime we have a misunderstanding and often told me to my face, he's going to his wife in Oshodi." Now I believe that separation does not have to end in divorce. Couples who are separated need to show themselves the same courtesy and respect as if they're still married, because they are. If there are things you need to keep private, then being separated is no excuse to spread your stories to the press. In as much as Funke is a public figure, she needs to stop speaking to the press for now. That is, if she hope to mend her marriage to Mr. Oloyede. If however, she has already determined to go ahead with a divorce, then...        | ||
| Meet The Woman With The Largest Afro In The World Posted: 01 Aug 2013 04:09 PM PDT  As endorsed by the Guiness World Book of Records, Aevin Dugas has the world's biggest afro - which measures four-and-a-half foot around. When left loose around her head, Aevin struggles to see out from underneath her large afro, and so she often has to style it up properly. It took her 14 years to get to this length and fullness and Aevin says she loves the bouncy curls. She believes her voluminous hair may have grown even bigger since the last measurement, but cannot reveal its size until the next official Guinness measurement. Aevin told Daily Mail; 'When my hair is stretched out to its complete length and pressed, it goes down to my butt. But I don't wear it like that because it looks weird.'   Despite loving her hair, she has to tie it back while driving as it is so difficult to see past it. On first dates, Aevin likes to restrain her afro as she says it can be 'overwhelming' for new people. Aevin, who has won fans from Brazil to Italy, has spent the last 14 years growing her hair. Her jaw-dropping look brings her attention wherever she goes but it does have its drawbacks as she often gets it caught in trees, car doors and people's earrings. It can also take two days to wash and dry and is so big she struggles to see clearly out from beneath it – which means she cannot drive with her 'hair up'. To get her hair ready for a night out she shampoos it and then uses up to five conditioners. She then puts her hair into two French braids and from then it takes about two days to dry. Hair washing has turned into a long-drawn out affair as it takes her two days to wash and dry it all in sections.    Aevin was originally inspired by a picture of her mum Deborah Dugas wearing an afro in the sixties – and she remains one of her biggest fans today. Mrs Dugas, 62, who runs a care home, said: 'I'm humbled by the fact she did this because she liked my natural hair, way before she was born. It was about half the size of Aevin's and everybody loved it. Her hair has definitely had an impact on the community. She made her decision when wearing your hair natural was considered unattractive in the black community. But, against all that, she started wearing her hair natural years ago. I am really proud.' What dedication, and the results sure are worth every pride. This will certainly inspire any one growing their hair naturally.     | ||
| Throwback Thursday - My Mother The Seventies Fashionista Posted: 01 Aug 2013 02:03 PM PDT
Which do you think is my mom? Also, do you have a caption better than mine? Let's have fun. Happy new month peeps. August shall be a month of love, joy and excellence.     | ||
| Couple Love - 2Shotz Sends Wife Birthday Message Posted: 01 Aug 2013 11:14 AM PDT  Nigerian musician, 2Shotz marked his wife's birthday with an Instagram picture, adding the following message, "HAPPY BIRTHDAY to dis young woman right here.... You r a most special person in d whole world today... Wishi u all dat makes your heart smile.... Luv u hun". The couple got married in a quiet ceremony back in April. Wishing them more love and happiness.     | ||
| Yes To The Dress - Irene's Wedding Story Featuring Allure 8900 Posted: 01 Aug 2013 10:24 AM PDT  When Irene first started searching for wedding dresses online, she had an idea of what she wanted - a modest gown with lace. The one she finally said yes to was the Allure 8900 which is an A-Line gown featuring lace applique throughout. It has a fitted bodice with a v-shaped neckline and sheer lace detailing on the 3/4 length sleeves and fully covered back. Enjoy Irene's wedding story below. My name is Irene Ididu Ogbeche,born on the 9th day of June,I graduated from Uniport, now married to Agbo Usang bassey. I live in Calabar and I am self employed - interior decorations and clothing line. How did you meet your husband? I met my husband through my friend, his Sister when I first visited her in their home in the year 2000. We became friends but it was not until late in 2003 that I agreed to be his "girlfriend". He was based in Calabar then and I was schooling in Port-harcourt. All together, I have been with him for 9 years until we got married this April. How did your husband propose? He proposed to me in January 2008 on his hospital bed. He had a broken femur and so he couldn't kneel or do anything. With pains, he said "you are the only one I want to be with ,you are the only one I want to live for and he didn't wait to get a yes or no, he just slipped in the Ring into my finger and that was it. We had already established real friendship so I wasn't skeptical about him or the relationship and where it was heading.  How did you know your wedding dress was the one? When I started planning for the big day, My dress was the first point of call. I started surfing the net because I already imagined myself on a particular dress and luckily I found one from Mori lee bridals but was redirected to their retailer in Nigeria, Imani Swank, a beautiful store located in Lekki, Lagos and that's how I found my dress and it became my dream dress and a perfect fit How was your wedding day? Anything you would do over if you had the chance? My Wedding day was the happiest and most memorable day in my life. For me everything was perfect, the way God wanted it to be and I wouldn't do anything differently if I am given a chance, What do you think is the "key" to a successful relationship? To me the key to a good relationship is Friendship, honesty, trust, understanding, patience and a forgiving heart. More of the Allure 8900 Wedding Dress   ___________ Imani Swank Bridals and Special Occasions are the authorised retailers of Allure Bridals, Mori Lee and Tari Nolan Bridal brands in Nigeria. Address: 23A Emma Abimbola Cole Street, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos Customer Lines: 08174694857, 08170038986 Website: www.imaniswank.com     | ||
| Klint Da Drunk And Wife on Marriage - Don't Feel Too Big to Apologize Posted: 01 Aug 2013 08:05 AM PDT  Klint da Drunk is the stage name of actor and comedian, Afaemena Igwemba, and he and his wife, Lilien Igwemba have been married since 2007. In this interview, the couple give an insight into what keeps their marriage fresh and interesting, even as they live in the entertainer's spotlight. How long have you been married? Klint: We thank God for the journey so far because we have been married for six happy years. How did you meet? Lilien: We met in Jos, where I used to reside. Not like we planned to meet but it just happened. According to my husband, when he saw me, he told his friend, 'That is my wife, I will marry that girl.' Did you entertain any fears about dating and later marrying someone in the limelight? Lilien: No profession is sacred. Even if you are marrying a doctor or a lawyer, the most important thing is knowing your partner and trusting God. For me, I was not scared at all because we were friends for a long while and that had gave me the opportunity to study him real good.  What was the attraction? Lilien: I knew the real him, not what everybody sees when he is performing on stage. At home, he is my husband and father to our children. When we were dating, there was no airs around him. He was very down-to-earth and that made me love him more. In addition, what truly attracted me to him is his heart. Klint is the nicest and kindest man on earth and I do not mean to flatter him. He has a heart of gold and I had always told God I want a man that will cherish our children and me. Was there any opposition? Lilien: My parents never opposed our decision to get married. They did not even mind the fact that he is an entertainer. Once they realised that he is a focused, young man and he was serious about me, they gave us their blessing. My husband is a very likeable person. Klint: My parents fell in love with her over the phone, before they even met her in person. That is the kind of person my wife is.   When there are challenges, how do you resolve them? Klint: No marriage is perfect and every marriage has its ups and downs. We have had our own fair share but we never go to bed angry. Things have been made easier because I am married to my best friend and that is one good advice I will give to every intending bride and groom. Marriage has been an added blessing for me. What do you think has sustained your union? Lilien: For a marriage to succeed, it takes a lot of conscious effort on the part of the two people involved. You have to be determined to make it work. Our number one secret is understanding. We are not just friends but great friends and we understand each other. Nobody understands my husband like I do. In addition, every good wife must be a prayer warrior because prayer is the best weapon. You can win many battles with prayers and a praying family stays together. How do you resolve your challenges? Lilien: We always apologise to each other whenever one does any wrong to the other. I am not too big to aplogise and neither is he. Saying sorry and meaning it when you have wronged your spouse goes a long way in bringing about stability in your marriage. Apart from being his wife, what else do you do? Lilien: I am a wife and mother to two wonderful boys. That is a job I truly enjoy doing and I run my personal business. Do you sometimes wish he was not in the limelight? Lilien: That wish comes once in a blue moon. There are times I wish both of us can do some things like normal people would without raising eyebrows which a lot of times, is not the case. Being in the limelight is restrictive somehow but I thank God for who my spouse is. It is a blessing for us. How romantic is Klint? Lilien: My husband is very romantic and that is another reason I fell for him. He makes a lot of romantic gestures that just melts my heart.   What is the most memorable gift you have received from him? Lilien: Over the years, we have exchanged numerous wonderful gifts. It is so much that we have lost count. Before we got married and started having children, my best gift used to be the very first car he bought for me. Then, we were still dating and I did not expect him to buy but right now, the greatest gift from him is, being the best father ever to our children. Is he also humorous at home? Lilien: Klint is a very funny man in and out of the house. He just takes humour everywhere he goes and as such, there is no dull moment with him. What has marriage added to you? Lilien: It has made me more mature, patient, tolerant, disciplined, and very prayerful too. As a couple how do you unwind? Lilien: We try to hang out when he is less busy. We also spend quality family time together with the kids. Thankfully, in spite of his busy schedule, he is a hands-on father and husband. His family is very important to him and he is always there when we need him. In that area, he does not fail. What pet names do you have for each other? Lilien: He has a 'secret' pet name for me that truly melts my heart. It so funny how much magic that name works when he addresses me by it. Klint: I would not disclose what she calls me either. How did you spend the last Valentine's Day? Lilien: He is hardly in town on Valentine's Day because of work. He usually has to perform at one function or the other. Besides, everyday is Valentine for us since we never stop showing each other love. To say that we set aside one day to celebrate love is not the case. I show him love every day, hour, minute and seconds and he does the same to me. Source     | ||
| George Osodi Photographs The Monarchs of Nigeria Posted: 01 Aug 2013 10:25 AM PDT  Goerge Osodi is a Nigerian photographer, a documentarist as well as an artist. His work is used in news reports and also shown in art galleries around the world. His photo collection Oil Rich Niger Delta which focused on the oil exploitation in the Niger Delta was compiled into a book, Delta Nigeria - The Rape of Paradise and brought him to international spotlight. Nigeria Monarchs is his next gallery exhibition and will be taking place at Bermondsey Projects , 46 Willow Walk in London. From 11th October– 3rd November 2013 (open 1-6pm Thursday- Sunday). The full exhibition is titled, "NIGERIA MONARCHS" The Custodians of Peace and Culture" and George Osodi writes about the photo collection; "A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture," said Marcus Garvey, one of the founders of the Pan-Africanism movement in the early 1900s, "is like a tree without roots."                  | ||
| When Is Too Early To Discuss Sex in a New Relationship? Posted: 01 Aug 2013 10:25 AM PDT  This is a question I just discussed with some friends. When it comes to looking for a serious, long-term relationship, I don't believe sex should be on the table. I consider the two like old enemies, and ne'er the twain shall meet. However, it does need to be discussed, the question is when? How soon is too soon? And what shall be said? I said in the discussion with my friends, both men and women by the way, that if a guy talks about sex on the first day, he's got three strikes, and he's out of my books. Some guys can cheat by sneaking in how they love to touch the hair of their girlfriend, or cuddle while watching a movie, they get my side eye, and they're still out. The guys in our group were laughing at me, but I'm serious. The first date, and maybe the next two or three are meant for us to begin to build a friendship. I want you to talk about yourself, your job, your passions and hobbies so I can get a feel of your personality and what you're looking for in a partner. And if I feel that sex before marriage is one of those things, then buh-bye... The ones that turn me off the most are the men who are so raw. "Babe, I can't wait to lick you all over" Say what?! And that's me trying to be restrained for this blog, believe me I've heard worse. What about the people you've not even met face to face? You give them your pin or twitter ID and next thing you have a naked weiner in your DM? I will so block such an a.... person. So when is it too early to discuss sex in a budding relationship?     | ||
| Some Relationship Red Flags to Look Out For Posted: 01 Aug 2013 04:05 AM PDT  By Stephanie Manley So often in the bloom of a new romance we set aside a few "minor" character flaws to let the relationship continue, where sometimes we really should just end it early, and cut our losses. I'll make a list of a few of the ones that often come up. Unfortunately, individuals that have these red flags are often the most charismatic people in the room. So be careful when you are starting out, so you can disengage before you are too involved. 1. Do they make all of the decisions for you? They chose where to go, what to eat, who you will be with? 2. Must they know where you are all of the time? Are the calling too often to check up on you? Are they calling you eleven times in an hour because you couldn't get to the phone? (Calling that often isn't cute, it's controlling.) 3. Do they force themselves sexually too early in the relationship? Are they pushing for intimacy too early? Are the pushing you in other intimate areas you do not want to go. 4. Do they lie? If they lie about minor details, they will lie about more, later on. This will happen. It is one thing to lie about small social things, lies about marriages, children, jobs, housing, finances, and past experiences is not acceptable. 5. Are they physically aggressive? Are they mean to your pets or other small animals? Do they hit the walls? 6. Are they kind to other people? Do the run down other people? Stay away if they fail these tests. You will be their subject when you are not in earshot. Maybe not today, but one day, this will happen. 7. Are they putting you down in private or public? We build up people we love; we do not tear them down. 8. Do they want you to slow down other social contacts and be with them instead of others in your social circle? 9. Do they forget important details in your life, or interests that you really hold near and special to you? If they gloss over them, they really think more of themselves than you. 10. Do they fail to acknowledge your areas of expertise? Are you a fantastic cook and they won't let you cook? This is really a short list, listen to your gut, your natural instinct, if something feels funny, stop and evaluate it honestly. Ask yourself if your close friend was describing these events and what they would do. If it sounds odd what you're telling your friend, guess what, it is odd. End the new relationship while it is early, before you give that person your heart. __________ Stephanie writes many more articles at http://romancelessons.com.     |
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