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Thursday, May 22, 2014

Romance Meets Life

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Should Women Get Paid Menstral Leave and Would You Take The Time Off?

Posted: 22 May 2014 04:41 PM PDT


By Charlotte Andersen

Remember how embarrassing it was to tell your middle school gym teacher why you couldn't participate in class that day, thanks to lady problems? (OK, in middle school it was probably because we were still figuring out how to work a tampon but still.) Well now think how it would feel to tell your boss. Yet many women worldwide are lobbying to either keep or instate paid leave for the few days the crimson tide is more like the crimson tsunami.


Some countries, like Japan and Indonesia, have had long-standing policies allowing women to spend a couple of days a month communing with their heating pad and Midol without penalty. But for others, like the U.S., it's never been an option. Indeed, many American women see the concept as insulting and demeaning to our gender.

Michelle S., a full-time worker and mother, sums it up saying, "This would be a huge step back for women — we want to be treated equally, yet we demand special treatment? Heck, no. If you need to miss work, then use sick time."

In addition, some women worry it would give employers one more reason not to hire women. We've all heard of bosses worrying about hiring a woman just in case she should ever give birth at any point in the future. That attitude would be magnified times 12. Plus, nobody wants their personal business being broadcast around the office.

Yet on the other hand, it seems like this is an obvious difference between the sexes and acknowledging our hormonal fluctuations as normal seems like a positive step in making women feel comfortable in the workplace. Shark week is nothing to be ashamed of and asking for equal accommodation in the workplace doesn't mean everything needs to be exactly the same. Plus, for about 20 percent of women, the pain, bleeding, bloating and other effects of periods can be just as debilitating as having the flu. Every single month.
Jackie P. speaks up for this group saying, "My periods are both debilitating, and draining physically and emotionally. They also include several days of flow that would make the Mississippi River drainage basin look like a rivulet. I think that employers deserve us to be at our very best, and when one feels as if one has been put through eight rounds of heavyweight MMA followed by an Ironman triathlon, there is no way that is conducive to sharp mental focus and an even emotional keel."

The obvious compromise is personal time off (PTO). After all, isn't this the reason it was invented — so that employees wouldn't have to say where they were going, whether that be to a parent-teacher conference or a prostate exam? Then the question becomes should women get more PTO days than men?

I'm one of the lucky ones in this debate: Thanks to birth control that makes my periods almost non-existent and a flexible work schedule, I don't have to worry about this issue. Yet for many women, especially in less-developed countries, this is one of the hardest parts of being female and being a provider.

What do you think — if you were offered paid period leave, would you take it?

Via sheknows.com

Kim Kardashian Looks Amazing as She and Sisters Turn Up For Bachelorette Party

Posted: 22 May 2014 03:03 PM PDT


Kim Kardashian is really enjoying the last days before her wedding this weekend to fiance Kanye West. She is currently in Paris with her whole family and most of her friends have also already arrived Paris ahead of the wedding. The group have been doing all the touristy things France is known for, going to the Eiffel Tower, eating frog legs and snails and more.

With no confirmation on if the wedding is in Paris or in Florence like had been reported, the ladies turned out in fashion finery for a dinner party for the soon to be Mrs. West.









Pictures via Dailymail

Nigerian Military Releases Press Statement Denying Viral Photos of Alleged Genocide in Borno

Posted: 22 May 2014 02:08 PM PDT


The Blueprint newspaper published photos of boys and men lined up in a field and who a Muslim cleric alleges were then shot to death by the Nigerian military and buried in a mass grave. The photos went viral online when some blogs syndicated them. A press release by the Nigerian military through the Defence headquarters, however claims they have nothing to do with it. Read the press release below.



"The DHQ wishes to unequivocally dissociate the Nigerian military from any involvement in the alleged genocide as depicted in the graphic pictures which appeared in the front page of Blueprint newspapers of 22 May 2014 edition entitled, "Alleged Killing field in Borno".

While the military will continue to respect freedom of expression of Nigerians, it will not submit to desperate blackmail and propaganda aimed at diverting attention and pitching public opinion against the armed forces. Although the real motive of the report and presentation with the apparent intention to impute military complicity in the event depicted in the pictures is yet to unfold, the DHQ sees this allegation as the manifestation of yet another grand design to tarnish and denigrate the image of Nigerian Armed Forces.

The Nigerian military remains a professional force whose operations is guided by high standard of professional ethics and will not be party to such dastardly act. At no time or event in the course of the counter-insurgency operation have the troops embarked on the extra-judicial killing of civilians as exhibited in the gory pictures.

The location and occasion where the events captured in the pictures were taken is unknown and has no bearing whatsoever as insinuated in the report by the Blueprint newspaper. The individual holding stick which the paper mischievously described as "a soldier stand(ing) guard…" is certainly not a Nigerian soldier neither is any of those captured in the pictures.

The media are once again advised not to make themselves available to those who are desperate to tarnish the good name of the Nigerian Armed Forces

CHRIS OLUKOLADE

Major General

Director Defence Information

Beyonce Re-rocks Long Box Braids And They are Down To Her Legs This Time

Posted: 22 May 2014 12:09 PM PDT


Beyonce  is rocking box braids for the second time this year, with the extremely long, caramel-to-blonde ombre braids flowing down one side of her face and trailing down to the top of her thigh. The singer rocked box braids earlier this year, posting pictures of herself wearing box braids with hip-length blond extensions on Instagram back in January. See more pictures of Beyonce in January and the recent hairstyle below.

On Husband's Alleged Cheating, Did Adaeze Yobo Get It Right Saying "Join The Line"?

Posted: 22 May 2014 12:25 PM PDT


Adaeze and Joseph Yobo are one of the celebrity couples that share their marriage on social media with pictures and commentary. Adaeze regularly updates her friends and family of her life as a student, wife and mother in her faraway locale. But not everyone can love everything you do.

A commenter on one of her pictures took the criticism too far this afternoon when they suggested that Joseph Yobo cheats on Adaeze and her pictures on Instagram are her ways of putting a happy face on her pain. Adaeze replied the person and made it seem like she knew about Yobo's cheating ways and was not bothered about his many women.


Adaeze followed the response up by making a screengrab of their back-and-forth and sharing that so everyone could see. The picture is the one above which she captioned;

Ok! Seriously, stop sending me messages like this on instagram. I am the last person who cares. emoji stop it! #getoverit #iamnotajealousperson so you going about it the wrong way boo boo. I hope you find peace

There are two scenarios one can infer from her comments;

1. Joseph Yobo is really a serial cheat and she knows about it and over looks it,

2. She is being sarcastic and only putting the insulting commenter in their place,

But if it sarcasm, there are definitely a lot of her so-called fans that did not get it. When people think and reason on marriage and romantic relationships like some Nigerins do, speaking loosely can get one in trouble. Check out these two comments below...

sweetestnma
You guys should stop repying to the that riffraff called uyyii, he or she wants to be notice and you are giving him/her the attention, wish Adaeze hard ignored the bastard. Foolish and jobless Uyyii please every man sleeps and fuck around not even your father is a saint so get over it, the last time. I checked she is still in her husband's house married with a baby BOY, and watch it another one could be coming soon while your are here getting frustrated. No man is a saint they are all polygamous in nature. Sso keep your stupid comment to yourself. 2face idibia has kids all over while dating Anne yet Anne still got married to her. Adaeze iss still the only wife and mother of Yobo's son! Deal with it OTELE!

katchyohiaeri
@adaezeyobo and every decent woman every where, an advice from a big sister. The average nigerian single woman is frustrated. Do u blame them? There folks, colleagues and what have u are on their necks to hook a man. It's so sad that all they can latch on is married men who don't even respect them. They can't boast of single men who can give them a name to bear even if they run along and screw their friends. So when biatches like @uuyi who can't get a man to call their own see married women , anyone as it may be , they hate them for having that fab life they wish for them selves. The worst this bitch can do is sleep with UR hubby which I know she has not and will not. Since she isn't lucky she is cooking up over exaggerated gist. I have experience this shit before though am not yet married. So sweet hug UR hubby and fuck him well this night and come and celebrate it in UR next selfie. Those who r telling u to stop exchanging words with this bitch r been unreal. Show her that if she thinks she is a bitch u are a bigger bitch. And the madam of the house so she can hang her self

No matter the scenario, do you think she got it right? Is this the best way to fob off those who seek to hurt your feelings using the alleged infidelity of your spouse? Why should you admit to something like that even in jest? And believe me, some people will use this admission to make a point against her someday.

Sometimes, silence is really the best answer for fools. On this one, Adaeze should've ignored the person.

Mark Cuban Admits He Has Some Racist Prejudices and Bigotries

Posted: 22 May 2014 10:17 AM PDT


Mark Cuban, the owner of Dallas Mavericks has admitted in an interview that even he harbors "prejudices and bigotries." The Inc. interview was focused on many societal issues, and the vote by the NBA on banning  Donald Sterling because of his racist comments also came up. Mark Cuban says that while he condemns racism, he won't be a hypocrite and say he is above some stereotyping himself.


"In this day and age, this country has really come a long way putting any type of bigotry behind us, regardless of who it's toward. We've come a long way, and with that progress comes a price. We're a lot more vigilant and we're a lot less tolerant of different views, and it's not necessarily easy for everybody to adapt or evolve. We're all prejudiced in one way or the other."

"If I see a black kid in a hoodie and it's late at night, I'm walking to the other side of the street. And if on that side of the street, there's a guy that has tattoos all over his face -- white guy, bald head, tattoos everywhere -- I'm walking back to the other side of the street," he said. "And the list goes on of stereotypes that we all live up to and are fearful of. And so in my businesses, I try not to be hypocritcal. I know that I'm not perfect, I know that I live in a glass house and it's not appropriate for me to throw stones."

"When I run into bigotry in organizations I control, I try to find solutions. I'll try to give them a chance to improve themselves, because I think that helping people improve their lives, helping people engage with people they may fear or may not understand, and helping people realize that while we all may have our prejudices and bigotries we have to learn that it's an issue that we have to control, that it's part of my responsibility as an entrepreneur to try to solve it, not just to kick the problem down the road,"

"Because it does my company no good, it does my customers no good, it does society no good if my response to somebody and their racism and bigotry is to say, 'It's not right for you to be here. Go take your attitude somewhere else.'"

Cuban's reaction when news leaked of Donald Sterling's racist comments, in an audio secretly recorded by his girlfriend was to condemn such racism. He said the comments were "abhorrent and obviously racist" but cautioned banning an owner by forcing them to sell was a "slippery slope." In the interview, Cuban said he is addressing his own weaknesses and has hope many others, like Donald Sterling, will do the same if they are not treated as pariahs by the society.

I think I agree with him. Forgiveness is important and learning to engage with people who are either too old school or too scared by one or two personal experiences to relate well with different races. And to be honest, we all do have our stereotypes we regard other people through. True or false?

15 Year Old Boko Haram Survivor Testifies To US Congress About Losing Her Father and Brother

Posted: 22 May 2014 08:25 AM PDT


Deborah Peter is a 15 year old girl who survived a Boko Haram attack on her family in 2011. She witnessed her father and brother being shot to death and was then asked to lie between their corpses. She is currently living in Virginia and has testified to U.S. House lawmakers, House Foreign Affairs Committee as they investigate the role of the United States in the Boko Haram saga. You can read her testimony in full below, see document here.

"My name is Deborah Peter and I am the sole survivor of a Boko Haram attack on my household. On December 22, 2011 at 7 pm, my brother and I were at home when we started hearing some guns shooting. My brother called my dad and told him not to come home because some people were shooting guns. But my dad said he should not worry because it was not the first time he had come home when people were fighting. When my dad came home, he said that he was going to take a shower because he was hot. At 7:30 pm, three men knocked on the door. My brother answered the door because he recognized one of the men as a Muslim in our community.

The men asked where my dad was and I told them that he was in the shower. The men waited. After three minutes, they went into the bathroom and dragged my dad into the main room. They said that my dad was wasting their time and that they did not have time to wait on him. The men told my dad that he should deny his Christian faith. My dad told them that he would not deny his faith. They said that if he did not deny his faith they were going to kill him. My dad refused, saying that Jesus said whoever acknowledges Him in front of man, He will acknowledge in front of God; and whoever denies Him in front of man, He will deny in front of God in heaven.

 My dad said that he would rather die than go to hell fire. After he told the men that, the men shot him three times in his chest. My brother was in shock. He started demanding, "What did my dad do to you? Why did you shoot him?" The men told him to be quiet or else they were going to shoot him too. Then, the men discussed whether they should kill my brother. One of the Boko Harams said they should kill Caleb, my brother. The second man said that he was just a boy and that he was too young to kill. But the third man said that they should make an exception in this case because Caleb will only grow up to be a Christian pastor. Caleb asked me to plead with them for his life but they told me to shut up or they would kill me too. The leader agreed that they should kill him and shot my brother two times. My dad had still been breathing but when he saw them shoot Caleb, he died. My brother fell down but was still alive and gasping. The men shot him in his mouth. Then, my brother stopped moving and died. I was in shock. I did not know what was happening. The men put me in the middle of my dad and brother's corpses, told me to be quiet or be killed, and left me there. I stayed there until the next day when the army came. They removed my dad and brother's bodies to the mortuary and took me to the hospital.

I was traumatized. A nearby pastor paid for me to get out of town when he discovered that Boko Haram said they made a mistake by not also killing me. Boko Haram decided later that they should have killed me because I am the daughter of an apostate Muslim mother who converted to Christianity. So the pastor paid for me to get out of that region. I fled and Jubilee Campaign helped me come to a 9/11 child survivors of terrorism camp in America.

My family was targeted by Boko Haram because we are Christians. My dad was a pastor. We had to move from place to place because Boko Haram always attacked my father and told him that they would kill him. In November, they burned his church and threatened him. My dad refused to deny his faith and rebuilt his church. That is why they killed him—because he is a Christian.

I decided to tell the world my story when the Chibok girls were taken because everyone needs to know how horrible Boko Haram is. They kill innocent people who never hurt them. I want the world to understand what happened to me. I hope that the kidnapped Chibok girls will take courage from my story, and know more of what God says, and know what it means to stand strong in the face of bad people. I hope that they will be free and be able to go to school and worship freely. I hope that like me, some of them can come and continue their education in America. "

Are They Dating? Maksim Chmerkovskiy Loves Meryl Davis, Brother Val Says

Posted: 22 May 2014 07:27 AM PDT


It was no big surprise when Maksim Chmerkovskiy and Meryl Davis won the Mirrorball Trophy on the Dancing With the Stars Finale a couple of days ago. What I and most people who've been watching the show and seeing the relationship between Maks and Meryl grow from episode to episode, want to know is, is the love between them for real?

Maks, 34, joked on Tuesday's finale that he wanted to "ravish" Meryl and have "big, ice-dancing" babies with her. The victory with Meryl Davis is his first in 14 seasons of competition, and he said about the win, "There's a reason it didn't happen before. It's because I was meant to do it with her." How sweet is that? But is the cheese just for the show or are they really dating?

Maks' brother, Val Chmerkovskiy, tried to answer the question by saying that the dancing couple's love is beyond the romantic. What does that even mean?


He explained to US Weekly, "She was good for him, but I feel it wouldn't do their love justice. One makeout session in the middle of the dance or to label it that they are a couple - it sounds great, but that's not what it is. He loves her probably more than I've seen him love another woman - he loves and adores her - but it's like a King Kong type of relationship."

"She's precious, and he's gentle with her because he wants to see her shine and he won't want to hurt her. He's willing to calm down for her because she's the last person he wants to see cry and the last person he wants to hurt."

That kind of love, Val said, is "bigger than a kiss" or a hookup.

"He definitely loves her, and I know she loves him back. We as a family love her, too. We love Meryl, but I don't know if they were meant for each other or just meant to be in each other's lives for this moment. Or for many moments, definitely, as it's a friendship they'll keep for a very long time."

All I can say is Hmmm...let's wait for the official announcement.

Names of Men Most Likely to Cheat on Their Partners Revealed By Survey

Posted: 22 May 2014 06:03 AM PDT


A recent U.K. study of 2,000 unlucky-in-love women looked at their experiences with men in the past and saw Wayne ranked as the least trustworthy name when it comes to love. From their responses, men named Wayne are considered the least trustworthy when it comes to maintaining faithful relationships.

WhitePages.com took the results from the UK study and deduced that in America, based on the popularity of the names, women are more likely to encounter a man named Scott, the name that took the seventh spot on the original list of men with a wandering eye. Lovers should also be on the lookout for Mark and Matthew, who took the second and third spots based on popularity of the name, respectively.

The Unlucky 13: Top American Names Most Associated with Cheating

1. Scott

2. Mark

3. Matthew

4. Lee

5. Ryan

6. Nicholas

7. Steve

8. Wayne

9. Craig

10. Harry

11. Dean

12. Ashley

13. Liam


I hope no one reading has a boyfriend's name is in this list? Do you know anyone by any of these names, and if they have a history of cheating? Can you think of other names?

6 Warning Signs That You May be Settling For Less Than You Deserve

Posted: 22 May 2014 04:03 AM PDT


Do you ever find yourself wondering if they're The One, or if you're just settling down because you don't think you'll find anyone better? Sometimes, when we're at a low ebb, it can be very easy to convince ourselves that someone is right for us, just because they're there. But settling rarely makes for a long lasting, happy relationship. Here are 6 warning signs that you're settling for second best in your relationship.

1. The little things really bug you

Love is blind…well, it should be during the honeymoon phase anyway. If your relationship is relatively new but little things about your partner are already starting to annoy you, this is a big warning sign. Over time these things aren't going to go away, they're just going to get more annoying.

2. You fantasise about time alone

When you're with someone you really like, especially at the start of the relationship, you tend to want to spend every second together. However, if you find yourself fantasising about that evening you can spend alone watching the TV shows your partner hates, or that weekend you have coming up where you can spend some time on your own, you're settling.

3. You constantly think about the sands of time

Love isn't a practical thing. You fall in love with someone despite all the odds, not to fulfil a purpose. If you keep telling yourself that this is your last chance, and you probably won't find anyone else then you really are settling. You're never too old to find love but you're always too young to settle.

4. You're attempting a make-over

If you keep a mental to do list of the things you think your partner could improve on then you've got problems. As we've said time and time again on eHarmony Advice, you should never begin a relationship thinking you can change the other person to be your ideal partner. Your soul mate will seem right from the very start.

5. You gloss over your partner's faults

On the opposite end of the spectrum is the person who ignores all their partner's faults. So what if she never does any housework, at least she comes home when she says she will. Or so what if he never tells me he loves me, at least he loads the dishwasher properly. Your partner doesn't need to be perfect but they do need to be right.

6. You're always making excuses for your partner

Do you find yourself saying things like 'She's had a really tough year' or 'He can't help it' to your friends and family when they question aspects of your partner's personality or habits? You shouldn't have to make excuses to your loved ones about your partner. You should either be honest with them, or get out of the relationship.

Via eHarmony

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Bridal Makeup by Melys Makeover - Olaide Sotubo's Traditional Wedding Look

Posted: 22 May 2014 03:09 AM PDT


Meet our bride for today: Olaide Sotubo

Olaide contacted me for my services less than 2 weeks to her wedding. Though I had 2 clients already booked for that weekend, but still followed my guts and considered her request. Because of the short notice, we didn't do a pre-trial hence,I met her a day to her wedding. 3 clients, miles apart whew! ...trust me to pull them all off. Thank God it was a weekend, the road was free.

Olaide is such a pleasant person to be around, very loving, caring and down to earth. And oohh! A makeup artist's day is fulfilled when you hear you're the first MUA to work on your clients face *grin. This was her first major makeup ever and after it all, her sisters kept asking if it was really her. Glad I disvirgined that face.

For her traditional  look, I dolled her face up with pop of colours. The eyes was a bit subtle while on the lips was a bright red ombre lippy. Because it was a day's event, I had about 15 min to to style her hair and change her makeup look for the reception. I decided to leave the eyes as it was but changed the lips to a cool subtle lips. Apart from her well structured face, she has a lovely smooth skin. Looking at her before the session, I knew immediately all she needed was going to be a light foundation coverage and Mineral powder to set her look

When a bride is determined to look her best on her day, she'd shun phone calls and pose endless for pictures, and this is what you get *wink*!












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Melys Makeovers- is a beauty place that offers unique makeovers to all persons and organizations home and abroad. Melys Makeovers studio was established in September, 2009 by DAMILOLA OGUNSAKIN. One of their services is bridal make-up and they will be showcasing some of the beautiful brides here on RML.

You can contact them via 08067277167 or email info_melys@yahoo.com and melysmakeovers@gmail.com
Their website is www.melysbeauty.com and they are also on social media - Twitter/MelysMakeovers, Facebook/Melysmakeovers, and Instagram/MelysBeauty.
                                   


Kevin Hart Defends Girlfriend Eniko Parrish From Being Called a Home Breaker

Posted: 22 May 2014 02:03 AM PDT

Kevin Hart and Eniko Parrish

Kevin Hart and Ex-wife Torrei Hart divorced in 2011 but Kevin says they have been apart for more than 6years and he's only been dating his current girlfriend Eniko Parrish for five years. His Ex-wife and the mother of his two children, remembers it differently and insists they were still together when he started dating Eniko.


In a promo for a new reality TV show, The Atlanta Exes, in which Torrei is starring in, she slammed Kevin's current girlfriend and alleged she was responsible for the breakdown of their marriage. Torrei told ET:

'It does hurt that my kids have to be around a woman who broke up a marriage. When you have your kids saying, "Mommy, what happened?" I never lashed out.  I never tried to punch her in the face, even though I've had moments where—trust and believe—I wanted to K.O. her ass.'

So Kevin was not happy about those comment and took to Twitter to angrily hit back on her and at the same time defend his girlfriend. In a series of Twitter messages he wrote:

'I guess giving a woman over 20k a month and still being there for her and being a incredible father isn't enough!'
'Here's what's sad, My Ex wife is the mother of my 2 beautiful kids & is well taken care of,I go above & beyond what the court ordered me 2do
'Because she is the mother of my kids I would never slander her name or anybody that she's dealing with.
'I've actually embraced the man that she is dealing with with nothing but positivity. I'm a mature adult, I'm not a teenager
'That man is going to be around my kids and for that reason alone I want to have a positive relationship with him.
'4 her 2 continue 2 talk about my Woman is honestly sad especially after 5yrs of us being 3gether &a total of 6 1/2 years from me leaving her.'
And Kevin insisted his marriage was over his new romance started.
He said: 'With that being said don't believe the hype people, I've been separated & divorced for a long time now people. I've moved on with my life.
'My woman has nothing to do with my past marriage problems in any way shape or form. It's almost 7yrs total of me not being with my Ex
'I want nothing but the best for her & her boyfriend and that will not change. I ignore negativity,being bitter & angry will get u know where.'
And he praised Eniko for her close relationship with his children.
Kevin tweeted: 'I love the fact that my woman loves my kids and a smart woman should love that as well. What if it were the other way around?
'What if a woman despised a mans kids because they weren't hers???? People don't think before there actions....
'With that being said I hope my Ex wife honestly finds happiness. THIS HAS BEEN A KEVIN HART PERSONAL ANNOUNCEMENT. Have a good day everybody
'I'm a open book with my life and I always have been. I don't hide anything from my fans. I'm as real as it gets people. Thanks for listening.'
'P.S I was listening to "Drake's" album while I was tweeting all that stuff....lmfao. That s**t made me emotional lmfao.'
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