Romance Meets Life |
- Will and Jada Smith Under Investigation by Children Services For Topless Picture
- "Don't Get Fat" - Proposed Prenup by Sherri Shephard's Estranged Husband
- Maternity Style - Mila Kunis in Loose Maxi Skirt and Tank Top
- Mommy Time - Kim Kardashian and North West Shop Paris Ahead of Wedding
- The Voice - Usher and Josh Kaufman Set Fire To The Stage
- #StopDomesticViolence - Michael Jace Charged With Shooting Death of His Wife
- Toni Braxton Reveals Guilt about Abortion in Memoir 'Unbreak My Heart'
- 26 Women Having Affairs With Catholic Priests Ask Pope To Remove Celibacy Vow
- Womb For Rent Business in India Raises Ethical Questions
- Vital Elements of Communication To Make Your Relationship Stronger
- Couple Love - Joke Silva and Olu Jacobs Cook For Each Other
- Fiction - The Caged Bird Sings By Inyamu #BringBackOurGirls
- Do You Remember Your Firsts With Your Partner?
- Daddy Time - Daniel Amokachi With His Identical Twin Sons
- Nse Ikpe Etim-Sule Talks Marriage, Career and the Future on The Juice
- Pamela Anderson Talks About Being Sexually Abused From Age 6
- #BringBackOurGirls Salma Hayek, Harrison Ford Campaign on the Cannes Red Carpet
- J-Lo, John Legend, Amber Rose and Winners at BillBoard Music Awards
- How to Know You're Dating a Player
- Trailer - Would You Pay $5000 To See JayZ and Beyonce ON THE RUN?
- Drawing Eyebrows On Babies is Funny and Disturbing At the Same Time [Photos]
- Couple Love - Damilola Adegbite and Chris Attoh Celebrate Joint Birthday
- Facebook Helps Reconnect Birth Mother and Her Adopted 23-year-old Daughter
- Marquel, The One Black Guy on The Bachelorette Show is Hunky!
- Ohio Man Banned From Impregnating Women Till He Pays Off Back Child Support
- What Kim Kardashian Did With The Wall of Roses Kanye Gave Her For Mother's Day
- Frank Donga's Back - Real Business
| Will and Jada Smith Under Investigation by Children Services For Topless Picture Posted: 20 May 2014 06:17 PM PDT  Earlier this month Willow Smith, the 13-year-old daughter of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith, caused a social media uproar when a picture of her in bed with shirtless 20-year-old actor, Moises Arias was posted on the internet. Jada came out in defense of her daughter, saying the photo wasn't suspicious in any way. She said, "Here's the deal. There was nothing sexual about that picture or that situation; you guys are projecting your trash onto it, and you're acting like covert pedophiles, and that's not cool." However, it seems the Los Angeles County Department of Child and Family Services are taking it just as seriously as the majority of people that spoke out against the picture. According to Radar Online, the department has officially opened an investigation into the incident. "The investigation was formally opened last week and is being taken very seriously by the department," an insider told Radar. "Will and Jada Pinkett Smith have been extremely cooperative with officials. Of course, they aren't happy that their parenting skills are under scrutiny, but they understand." The source also revealed that social workers will talk to Willow separately as well as to Arias. "This won't just be one or two visits with the family, and it will likely be an open investigation for at least a month, out of an abundance of caution," the source said. | ||
| "Don't Get Fat" - Proposed Prenup by Sherri Shephard's Estranged Husband Posted: 20 May 2014 06:22 PM PDT  Prenups are usually drawn up and signed by an engaged couple before they sign on the dotted lines. However it seems that Sherri Shepherd's estranged husband Lamar Sally had asked to add an amendment to the couple's prenup after they were married and started having problems. He wanted Sherri to sign up to maintain a certain weight, have more sex with him, and submit to him always as the head of the marriage. Some of the clauses Lamar Sally wanted to be added to the prenup include the following; - "It is my joy to submit to my husband as a way to honor God. Even if my husband doesn't respond the way I'd like, I will respect him and be loyal to him. I will walk in his shoes and seek to understand his perspective." - "I respect my husband's opinions and recognize him as the leader of our home. I will always speak well of my husband." - "I enjoy having sex with my husband. I crave intimacy with him and want to be uninhibited and free in our lovemaking." - "MY BODY IS IMPORTANT TO ME. I STRIVE TO MAINTAIN A HEALTHY BODY WEIGHT AND EXERCISE AT LEAST THREE TIMES A WEEK." The estranged couple are expecting a baby together via surrogate, for which Sally is seeking full custody. He filed for separation earlier this month, read here, where he asks for their initial prenup to be nullified. Meanwhile Sherri Shepherd has filed for divorce, their prenup grants her custody of any children from the marriage. I know there are marriages where the wife willingly submits to the husband's authority as the head of the household. In fact, I doubt you need to add such things in a prenup, these are things to have found out about each other and agreed to before the marriage. And then let's not talk about the issue of not getting fat or granting sex on tap. If you're not doing these things willingly, how valuable can they be? Would you sign such a contract if you're a woman? And for the men, do you think these conditions should be an explicit part of the marriage contract? | ||
| Maternity Style - Mila Kunis in Loose Maxi Skirt and Tank Top Posted: 20 May 2014 03:03 PM PDT  Comfort seems to be the main priority for Mila Kunis, who is engaged and expecting her first child with Ashton Kutchner. The actress was photographed while out with her fiance in a long floaty maxi skirt, over which she wore a double layer of a tank top and a black thin strapped tube top. Mila Kunis and Ashton are keeping the sex of the baby secret and are yet to reveal when the baby is due [watch video].     | ||
| Mommy Time - Kim Kardashian and North West Shop Paris Ahead of Wedding Posted: 20 May 2014 01:03 PM PDT | ||
| The Voice - Usher and Josh Kaufman Set Fire To The Stage Posted: 20 May 2014 11:52 AM PDT  I love Usher, I love R&B and I'm glad Usher got to steal Josh Kaufman and they made it to the final three of this season's The Voice. Last night was absolutely amazing for Team Usher and it was hit after hit! Josh Kaufman took the stage three times during the finale and the first performance was a duet with coach, Usher - The Police's "Every Breath You Take." Can you imagine these two great men singing one of my favorite songs? I was in heaven! For one of Josh's solo performances, America chose Stevie Wonder's "Signed, Sealed, Delivered," which I also liked. A lot. After his performance, coach Shakira told Josh that he had, "a voice that has such charisma, so dynamic, has so many facets that no one can get bored listening to you." Adam Levine is totally regretting choosing another contestant over Josh Kaufman which is how Usher came to steal him for his own team.  For his final selection, Josh was the one that selected Adele's "Set Fire to the Rain" and he did it great justice and the producers of the show also did an amazing job with the stage. The studio audience was so excited by the performance, and I can't believe anyone watching wouldn't have been too. I went off immediately to vote for him.  As the icing on the cake for us Usher lovers, there was coach's duets also and Usher and Adam Levine performed Maxwell's How Does it Feel? Again, great song, and awesome musicians and megawatt star power. Best show of the season and I can't wait for the results which will be announced later tonight. Enjoy some of the songs from The Voice's season finale below; | ||
| #StopDomesticViolence - Michael Jace Charged With Shooting Death of His Wife Posted: 20 May 2014 09:01 AM PDT
Actor Michael Jace has been booked by police for the murder of his wife. Michael Jace may be innocent until proven guilty by the law, but he did call 911 himself to report he shot his wife. Law enforcement sources say Micheal Jace's 2 kids had witnessed him allegedly shooting and killing their mom. The kids - both under 10 - were extremely upset and taken to the police station. Though the kids have now been taken to the home of a family member where they could be comforted, can you imagine the trauma that will stay with them for the rest of their lives? And in the very likely event Micheal Jace is sentenced to life in prison, they have become total orphans! I can never understand how a man can marry a woman and then turn around and harm or kill her. No matter the acrimony, divorce or quarrel, how can you raise a gun to the mother of your children? It just bothers me that in the middle of the Oscar Pistorius trial we are now hit with this news. Did you know that according to statistic of women who are murdered, the perpetrators are most times someone whom they were once in a romantic relationship with? You woman quarelling and getting violent with that man, your husband, boyfriend, ex, or the father of your kids, what are you still doing there? Do you want to wait until you die in that toxic relationship? According to TMZ, Actor Michael Jace called police himself to report his wife had been shot, and he had pulled the trigger Monday night in Los Angeles ... TMZ has learned. Picture courtesy Getty Images | ||
| Toni Braxton Reveals Guilt about Abortion in Memoir 'Unbreak My Heart' Posted: 20 May 2014 08:08 AM PDT  In her new memoir, "Unbreak My Heart", Toni Braxton has opened up on her life, especially on how she still feels guilty about getting an abortion for her first pregnancy. She also talks about the two very public bankruptcies, her feelings on cosmetic surgery and getting a nose and boob job in 1992 as well as her divorce. Love was in the cards when Toni Braxton met Keri Lewis, a keyboardist and producer. She got pregnant but decided that the baby should be aborted because she was taking Accutane for acne, a drug that has since been taken off the market for possible catastrophic side effects of deformation of a fetus for up to two years after ceasing to take the drug. Toni Braxton had signed a waiver at the time she got the prescription, saying she understood the side effects. So she quickly decided to terminate the pregnancy, but now admits that even if she hadn't been on the medication, she would've made the same decision. According to Braxton, her reasons had more to do with convenience than fear her baby would be abnormal. Now she is wracked with guilt over that decision. 'I believed I had taken a life – an action that I thought God might one day punish me for'.  Keri Lewis and Toni did get married in 2001 and eight months later had a baby boy, Denim. Two years later, she would have a second baby boy, Diezel was diagnosed with autism. I have sometimes wondered whether God was punishing me for the abortion I had years ago by allowing my son to have autism. Or by giving me so many health issues. On cosmetic surgery and getting a nose and boob job 'I'd been wanting to change my nose for years – I wanted it to be less broad. But because of the conservative ideas I was raised with, I struggled with the thought of altering my body. And of course, I later got my boobies done. I'd always been shaped like a gymnast – size double A breasts and thunder thighs. In fact, I wish I would've had lipo on my inner thighs. I've always hated them. I loved how they looked. At last – Homely Toni Braxton had some curves. Before I got the breast implants, my stylist would use duct tape beneath my tiny boobs to make it look like I had cleavage. To this day, I am still happy I got that nose job. Yes, I wish I'd gotten it smaller, but the new nose did fit my face so much better'. On becoming rich and famous Her first big financial payday came in 1996 with an advance on future recordings that came to a whopping $1.6 million before paying taxes, agents, lawyers, managers – which left her $600,000. So she started spending. She bought a house, a mahogany Schimmel piano, leased a Jeep Cherokee. She began sleeping in the double suite penthouse at the Four Seasons in New York. My only regret was having no one to share the room with me' Clive Davis, the famed record producer and music industry executive, wanted her to go out on tour with saxophonist Kenny G. so she could develop the same crossover appeal as Whitney Houston and develop a white audience.But she needed to work with black promoters as well. She tried backing out of the tour but it was too late; tickets were being sold. When the tour ended, she had to borrow a million dollars from Arista to pay for the band, the sets, lights, background singers and dancers, wardrobe. On being Heartbroken During the tour, she hooked up with Curtis Martin, a football running back who played for the New England Patriots.Several weeks in the relationship, Curtis asked her how she felt about waiting. They had only been kissing and hugging. 'For me, sex is for when you get married. 'I can't wait to make love to my wife one day'. Being Broke Again Nothing was going right. She couldn't keep up with payments she owed Arista. She sold her home in Atlanta and moved to LA but she still needed to borrow more money to pay for the tour. After Arista deducted their costs and production of the album that was selling with the hit Un-Break My Heart, her royalty check was $2000. Despite five Grammys, five American Music Awards and three MTV Video Music Awards at the end of 1997, her debts totaled nearly $4 million.She had to sue her producer and Arista and file for Chapter 7 bankruptcy. She had signed a bad contract that allowed the record company to collect marketing costs of her albums from her instead of underwriting the expenses themselves. 'Even though I was trying to act strong, I felt broken.' She cried her way through her depression and ate Twizzlers and Kit Kats. She finally reached an agreement with the label and Toni received $20 million. But then there were agents, managers, and attorneys to pay, along with taxes. She moved back to Atlanta.  On her deteriorating Health and Divorce Her health kept deteriorating with the pressure to perform and stress over her deteriorating marriage. Divorce was inevitable, she writes, but Toni and her ex have but remained friends. A second Chapter 7 bankruptcy filing was also inevitable. She was now being sued to cover the cost of the cancelled shows at the Flamingo. She was the producer and the insurance company was not going to pick up the cost because she failed to list her health conditions. She had also taken out a personal loan for millions to launch the Vegas show She lost her home in Vegas. The bank foreclosed on her home in Atlanta and she moved into a rented home in LA. Following the diagnosis of lupus, she thought it best not to disclose her condition thinking people wouldn't hire her or want to be associated with her. ' But carrying such a big secret is a form of bondage – and above all else, I want to be free" She's now on the drug Kenalog, a steroid for the lupus. She also gets shots that cause her face to balloon up. | ||
| 26 Women Having Affairs With Catholic Priests Ask Pope To Remove Celibacy Vow Posted: 20 May 2014 07:10 AM PDT  Twenty-six women in love with Roman Catholic priests have written to Pope Francis begging him to remove the Catholic clergy's vow of celibacy. Most of them are Italian and all of them claim to be in a relationship with a priest. The women say they are just "a small sample" but add that they are writing on behalf of many other women who are "living in silence." The 26 women signed with just their name and the initial letter of their surname, plus the name of their hometown, but they did write their surnames and telephone numbers on the envelope. This is a sample of the letter from the Vatican Insider "Dear Pope Francis, we are a group of women from all over Italy (and further afield) and are writing to you to break down the wall of silence and indifference that we are faced with every day. Each of us is in, was or would like to start a relationship with a priest we are in love with." What do you think of the letter and the women's request? Do you know of any priest who are not uholding their celibacy vow, or have left the clergy in order to get married? | ||
| Womb For Rent Business in India Raises Ethical Questions Posted: 20 May 2014 06:03 AM PDT  Couples, especially wealthy foreigners, who are not able to have children of their own are reaching out to Indian women to carry their babies for them in a peculiar baby farm business that essentially allows Indian women to offer their wombs up for rent. Indian women are receiving about $8,000 per pregnancy as they carry the children of others. Though commercial surrogacy is not legal in some countries, there is not a low prohibiting it in India. Even in the countries in which surrogacy through a baby farm is legal, it can be cost prohibitive. These baby farms in India seemingly offer the best solutions for couples who are not able to have children on their own. They pay a baby farm to find a woman to carry their baby, then nine months and thousands of dollars later they have a little bundle of joy. Those Indian women who work for the baby farms generally come from poor backgrounds and do not live on much money, so the $8,000 or so they receive for carrying a child could make a huge difference in their lives. The Akanksha Infertility Clinic, which is the most well-known baby farm facilitator, has been in business for about a decade. In the last 10 years, the clinic has arranged for Indian women to carry more than 700 children of foreigners — hence why it's referred to as a baby farm. The amount of money that these women receive from the baby farm cannot be discounted. One Indian woman who was a surrogate mother in 2009 and 2012 earned so much money from the two baby farm pregnancies that she was able to move her family from a small hut into a two-level home. Similarly, she was able to pay for a life-saving operation for her husband that she otherwise would not have been able to afford. Even after all that, the family is still reaping the benefits from the surrogacy. Here's what she said about it: "We don't actually have a source of income at the moment. We're still living off the money from the surrogacy." So while the financial implications for these baby farms are obvious, the moral and ethical concerns continue to have a lot of unanswered questions. A British woman who was unable to have children after a botched operation said this: "When you're from the West, you don't do this lightly. When we did the research and visited we were reassured that the women were volunteering and it wasn't exploitative. We're obviously very conscious of human rights." Via Inquisitr | ||
| Vital Elements of Communication To Make Your Relationship Stronger Posted: 20 May 2014 08:36 AM PDT  Communication, an open mind and open heart, and a willingness to forgive and work together for a strong, more lasting relationship are the most vital elements of happy, committed relationships. Above all, relationships are not easy, but they are absolutely worth the struggle and effort. 1. Communication: Not Just a High School Class Anymore Most people know that communication is a vital part of a relationship, but both partners, in their own ways, have trouble actually opening their mouths and talking about their problems. Here are some common issues each gender has with the other. About girls, for the guys: you may think we talk about anything and everything, so how possibly could we have trouble communicating. The truth is, we fear rejection and being alone more than the average guy does. The result is that most girls will talk about everything except what's bothering them most, out of fear of our significant other leaving us or being angry with us. The cure: Reassure her that you love her, and will not leave her over a fight or relationship issue. At this point, your love should be strong enough to withstand most things, bickering and fighting included. Tell her that all long relationships have fights, and the most important thing is solving problems, so as not to build up resentment and damage the relationship. Do not: Tell her she is being irrational for her fears of you leaving. While we know that you mean it in a reassuring sense, that you would never leave her over something so insignificant, she takes it to mean that you don't respect her opinions or emotions, and think she's a silly little girl. Her emotions, while probably irrational, are still true, and as such are valid. Treat her with the respect she deserves. - Do romantic things together, without any distractions or worries. - Do romantic things together, without any distractions or worries. About guys, for the girls: Guys feel a constant pressure to perform and compete, and they constantly feel like their ladies are judging them. If they're with you, they think you're the most beautiful, most amazing thing under the sun, but they have trouble constantly reaffirming their affection. To them, what's true is true, and does not need to be constantly addressed. The cure: Tell them what you want from them. Guys hate guessing games and are not very good at them. If you want something for Valentine's day, have a heart and at least give them some hints, like, "I want flowers, but I want you to pick out what you would most think I would like, and not roses like everyone gets." Praise them, and tell them how much you enjoy it whenever they do something unexpected for you, so they don't have to constantly wonder if you enjoyed what they did, and if they should do it again. Do not: expect them to constantly be thinking about you, every second of the day. The fact that they love you, to them, is so obvious that it doesn't need constant reassessment. Also, girls communicate so much more non-verbally than guys do, but you've got to open your mouth and speak if you want to communicate with your boyfriend/husband. They hardly ever realize something is wrong unless you tell them. Next time you have a fight or are even upset with your beloved, take a step back and see if some of the problem is caused by your two very different communication styles. If you can begin to see where your other half is coming from, that's half the problem resolved already! Source ________ Top Relationship articles 1. How to get your man or boyfriend to love kissing - Do you often ask, how can i get my husband to love kissing and engage in it? 2. 9 Ways to Know When you're in Love - There are some people you meet and you just know they're a fantasy, and there are those that tug at your heart and you begin to wonder, could they be THE ONE? 3. Do you believe in love at first sight - Supposedly, more men believe in and experience love at first sight than women. 4. How to Keep Love Alive - Keeping the love alive is an active choice and sure isn't the easy option but it certainly is the most rewarding. Here are seven suggestions to keep the love alive in your relationship. 5. How to Express Love to your Woman - Sometime ago on Facebook, someone shared on how express love to your husband. This is my own version of how to express love to your wife. 6. Loving the One who Loves you Back - This is the typical nice guy, he won't rush to jump your bones, or to define a romantic relationship. He only showers you with attention and affection. 7. How to have a Lasting Online Romance - Online romance gives you the control, you can decide when and how to reveal any type of information. You can also completely back off at any time. 8. Love Languages: What is Yours? - how do you want your partner to show love to you. There is even a book called the five languages of love. | ||
| Couple Love - Joke Silva and Olu Jacobs Cook For Each Other Posted: 20 May 2014 12:03 AM PDT  Joke Silva was in a recent interview with City People magazine, where she talked about her marriage to fellow Nollywood actor, Olu Jacobs. She explained how the couple have been able to maintain their commitment even though she rarely cooks, something most people say defines a wife. She said it boils down to love and understanding; "I have never lied about this, I have never been 'a doing the cooking kind of woman'. When my husband met me, he knew. He was the one who used to do the cooking because he is good at it. I used to do the cooking when I felt like. Sometimes, it comes out to be a huge success and sometimes a failure. Some years ago, I cooked vegetables and it was terrible and my husband is such a gem, he ate it like that. It is not as if my mum didn't teach me. For my husband, cooking is a therapy and for me it is a chore and yet he will always tell you that I look after him so much, I do that in other ways. We have somebody who does the cooking. I have taught them to cook the way I like and we have people who do the general cleaning." | ||
| Fiction - The Caged Bird Sings By Inyamu #BringBackOurGirls Posted: 19 May 2014 01:08 PM PDT  It's the end of another day, and we're stuck in the gloominess of power cuts. The night air is chilly, a huge relief from the scorching heat of the afternoon sun. There are candles burning, as some of the girls study, while others talk about absolutely nothing... conversations about fashion, to the comic appearance of one of the teachers to Kannywood movies. Me? I'm just sitting here, wanting more out of life as Miriam weaves my hair. Dreaming of the day when I'll burst out of this life I am cocooned in. The life of a small village, where fear and caution has been the order of the day lately… if ever I will. Baba has high hopes for me, his first daughter. I'm writing my final exams, and rounding up secondary school, heading to the university, becoming a teacher, or perhaps a lawyer… he changes his hopes for me ever so often, I am confused myself. Mother thinks differently. She wants me married off. After all, she had her second child when she was my age, she knows just the right person for me… She says going back to school with the unrest in the village is madness; it's better to just move on with life than die because of education. Her fear blocks her sense of reasoning sometimes. Baba says it's because she's never seen the four walls of a classroom. Me? I don't know what I want. Maybe I do, but I tell myself I don't, because it's so far off from what is expected of me. I want adventure! I want people beyond the ears of my schoolmates to hear my voice and how beautiful it sounds when I sing, to applaud me, to give me flowers like in the movies. I want to be like the Bollywood movie stars, singing and dancing in beautiful outfits. I want to be famous. It sounds farfetched for a girl from a small village lost in the map like me, but a girl can only dream. Miriam's on the third plait of my hair, a skill she should be commended for, weaving in the dark… she's that good. Miriam wants to become a doctor, her uncle thinks she's too ambitious, she should look to be a midwife, I think she's lucky, after her parents died during one of the raids in the neighboring village, her uncle took her on. Every one expected the conservative man to marry her off immediately, but I guess grief made him shame us and how little we thought of him, to our joy he let her continue with school. It took time to get her to do this favor of making my hair, it took me sacrificing tomorrows lunch as her fee, she loves her tuwo shinkafa, I love my tuwo shinkafa as well, but it was a price I had to pay, either that or have my hair cut off at assembly. The principal had warned me to weave my hair or watch her shave it off. That woman, she doesn't understand that superstars don't carry their hair in plaits. I've got beautiful soft hair that falls way below my shoulder. I love it when that rare afternoon wind blows and my hair flies, maybe it's not as silky as that of the stars, but it is beautiful, especially when the wind tosses it around, makes me feel like I'm a sophisticated star… the bondage of plaits. I'm drifting off in my thoughts of Amitabh Bachchan whisking me away, when suddenly I hear a commotion outside the dormitory. I hear the sound of cars. It sounds more like trucks. I peep out the window but only see the headlamps in the pitch-dark night, and then I see movements. Shadows of men, plenty of men with weapons. A second of fear grips me as girls run helter skelter, covering up in fear, until we hear the comforting voice of the principal outside… it's the army she says. They've come to take us to a safe location. That's a relief; the tension in the state has been horrible, the killings, the destruction. For a second I thought we were another one of the victims of this insanity. I get a little excited as I file out with the rest; at least I get to have a little adventure for one night. It's not close to a movie set, but it makes my life seem more interesting, especially when I add some fictional details as I recount it to Adama, my little brother. I step out with the rest of the girls with my half made hair… Miriam finds my hand and holds it tight, I can sense she's scared, so I try to lighten her mood, I whisper, "our prayers have been answered, hopefully our exam tomorrow will be cancelled, we'll have more time to prepare", she doesn't even acknowledge me. As we stand outside, huddled together, I notice the leer on some of the faces of the men from the light the headlamps provide and my heart stops. At the same moment, the hostility of the environment pierces me and causes me goose bumps. This are not the good guys, these are living nightmares. We have been tricked. I hear shouts of commands, I see them hurling foodstuff from the school store, I see them shoving us into the trucks. I hear gunshots; I see them destroying properties and setting our hostels on fire. It's all happening so fast, like the whole world is being vacuumed into this moment of doom within a split second. We are all quite as the truck moves, this is beyond a nice little adventure, this is a horror story. The thing we have feared most has been surpassed, we feared death, but right now, death feels like heaven, it's the unknown we fear, what do they want to do with us? What happens next? What about our parents? What would my poor Baba say? Oh, how proud he was of me… Mama? I can see her smallish frame disappear in despair when she hears I am gone. As we go deep into the forest, the truck jouncing up and down in the bush path…. Our hearts are frozen with fear, there's nothing like a flicker of hope hanging over us, I know this, because I can feel it from the silent tears of those around me, from the pain of Miriam's finger nails digging into my arms. My eyes lock with the eyes of one of the insurgents, his eyes look glazed, his face looks hard and scary, but I stare on in defiance, I stare so hard he becomes so uncomfortable that he looks away…. I do what I know how to do most… I hum, and the hum turns into a song, I am hushed down in fear by Esther, we have been warned to be quite, I wouldn't mind them shooting me for defying their orders; it's better than the uncertainty we are driven into. I am past caring, my voice softly pierces into the night, the trees hear me, I pretend they applaud when the wind ruffles their leaves, and the other half of my unmade hair flies in the wind… Why does the caged bird sing? It sings for freedom, not from its cage, but for a release from the hopelessness within. I sing from the depth of my heart, I sing with my eyes wide open and dry, I cannot cry, I cannot let my tears blur the bright colors of the world dancing and cheering to my singing. I sing, as confetti's are thrown at me, I sing as I appear on screen with Amitabh Bachchan … I sing because visualizing my dreams makes my heart light. I sing because it's the only way I know how to free myself from this nightmare. ********** I wasn't sure if I was being insensitive writing this. Saying over 200 girls sometimes makes it less personal, even though it breaks our heart all the same. But I had to imagine an Amina from Chibok, a town i had never heard of prior to this horror, a girl like me when I was in secondary school. I had to create her and tell her story. Maybe if we pick the girls as individuals, we'll be able to feel a fraction of what they feel and be moved to pray more than we've ever done for them. I ended her story where I did, because it's hard to think beyond their capture, to make my mind imagine what they are going through, what horror sits in their minds. I pray God brings His girls back home. Let His love find them and lead them home. First published on Inyamu's Eldorado | ||
| Do You Remember Your Firsts With Your Partner? Posted: 19 May 2014 08:28 PM PDT  The online and long distance beginnings of my relationship with Atala is legend by now [Read Here], but suffice to say, we met for the first time already having deep feelings for each other which we refused to call love, and we lived thousands of miles and continents apart. The first time he came to see me, he was living in Seattle and I in Edinburgh Scotland. He spent a week and it was really great. The visit gave me enough ample time to show him all the sights and we did all the touristy things available. We also had time to talk and really get in tune with each other. Though it was his first trip to Scotland, Atala had lived in the UK before so it wasn't too stange for him. The first time we spent in Nigeria together was a different story. This was his first time in Nigeria in several years, and his first time that far east of Nigeria. Again, I was his hostess and tour guide, but this time things were not so cushy for him. To say the least, this put somthing of a strain on us and our fledgling relationship. And guess what, we were already planning our wedding! I have to say that planning the wedding came with its own palava too, nobody is ever too happy when they are spending money and not seeing what it is getting in concrete terms. Atala was spending money, I was spending, and yet it seemed our parents wanted more and more each day, for one list item, or the other thanksgiving party.        But I have to admit that working through those issues that came up and learning how to deal with our new in-laws back then has stood us in good stead as our marriage has progressed. And on some of those few days we spent in Asaba, we took the time to drive round and have a feel of the location, visiting the banks of the River Niger, crossing over the bridge, and so on. What about you guys? Do you remember sharing any firsts with your partner (or past boyfriends/girlfriends)? Do share... | ||
| Daddy Time - Daniel Amokachi With His Identical Twin Sons Posted: 19 May 2014 09:54 AM PDT  Former Super Eagles player Daniel Amokachi is the current Assistant Coach of the Nigerian national team, and also a family man. Amokachi was recently pictured with his identical twin sons Nazim and Khaled Amokachi who are also budding footballers and once had trials at Everton's youth academy. Like father like sons, eh?  | ||
| Nse Ikpe Etim-Sule Talks Marriage, Career and the Future on The Juice Posted: 19 May 2014 09:40 AM PDT  Nse Ikpe Etim-Sule is the latest guest on The Juice with Toolz for the 7th episode of the show. I think it's one of the best features yet which amps my respect for both Nse and Toolz. Their talk focused on how she got started in the film industry, some of her very diverse roles, her husband and marriage as well as her plans for the future. Check out the interview below. | ||
| Pamela Anderson Talks About Being Sexually Abused From Age 6 Posted: 19 May 2014 09:00 AM PDT  Pamela Anderson spoke publicly for the first time about the sexual abuse she suffered as a child and an adolescent. Pamela Anderson says that from age six to 10, she was molested by a female babysitter and at 12, she was raped by the 25-year old older brother of a friend's boyfriend. She was also gang raped by a boyfriend and six of his friends when they were in 9th grade. Pamela Anderson made these revelations as she launched her own foundation at the Cannes Film Festival. According to the transcript on her website, she admits she "wanted off this earth," which is just heartbreaking. Pamela Anderson says her father was an alcoholic and her mother worked two waitressing jobs to make ends meet. The actress says she never told them about the abuse she endured because she didn't want to make life more difficult for them. I admired Pamela Anderson as I watched Baywatch as a teenager, she was very beautiful, and it's so easy to think she had life all rosy. Knowing her past now makes me more understanding of her life choices I found and frowned at as I grew older. I'm impressed that she is coming out with this news now in order to help other women who were abused and feel ashamed about their experiences. She has raised two sons and has remained pretty normal, despite what she had to deal with as a young girl. She hopes other women realize sexual abuse is not their fault and that even the most gorgeous and sought-after stars who seem like they have perfect lives can be suffering inside. Do you know any young girl or woman who was raped and molested as a child and teen? How do we suport them? | ||
| #BringBackOurGirls Salma Hayek, Harrison Ford Campaign on the Cannes Red Carpet Posted: 19 May 2014 03:14 PM PDT  Salma Hayek used her time on the Cannes Film Festival red carpet to remind the world that more than 200 Nigerian school girls are still missing after being kidnapped by Boko Haram. The cast of Expendables 3 led by Harrison Ford also showed some #bringbackourgirls signs before the premiere of their movie.   From left: Harrison Ford...Wesley Snipes, Sylvester Stallon and Mel Gibson. | ||
| J-Lo, John Legend, Amber Rose and Winners at BillBoard Music Awards Posted: 19 May 2014 08:21 AM PDT  Lots of stars turned out on the red carpet for the Billboard Music Awards, and many came with their partners. Jennifer Lopez and Casper Smart are counting up the years, there were Chrissy Teigen and John Legend, Ryan and Genevieve Tedder (who are expecting their child soon), Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa, Shakira and Gerard Pique, Jordin Sparks and Jason Derulo, as well as Iggy Azalea and her boo.       Full list of winners Top Artist Justin Timberlake Top New Artist Lorde Top Male Artist Justin Timberlake Top Female Artist Katy Perry Top Duo/Group Imagine Dragons Top Billboard 200 Artist Justin Timberlake Top Hot 100 Artist Imagine Dragons Top Digital Songs Artist Katy Perry Top Radio Songs Artist Justin Timberlake Top Touring Artist Bon Jovi Top Social Artist Justin Bieber Top Streaming Artist Miley Cyrus Top R&B Artist Justin Timberlake Top Rap Artist Eminem Top Country Artist Luke Bryan Top Rock Artist Imagine Dragons Top Latin Artist Marc Anthony Top Dance/Electronic Artist Daft Punk Top Christian Artist Chris Tomlin Top Billboard 200 Album Justin Timberlake, The 20/20 Experience Top R&B Album Justin Timberlake, The 20/20 Experience Top Rap Album Eminem, The Marshall Mathers LP 2 Top Country Album Luke Bryan, Crash My Party Top Rock Album Imagine Dragons, Night Visions Top Latin Album Marc Anthony, 3.0 Top Dance/Electronic Album Daft Punk, Random Access Memories Top Christian Album Alan Jackson, Precious Memories: Volume II SONG AWARDS Top Hot 100 Song Robin Thicke Featuring T.I. & Pharrell, Blurred Lines Top Digital Song Robin Thicke, Featuring T.I. & Pharrell Blurred Lines Top Radio Song Robin Thicke Featuring T.I. & Pharrell, Blurred Lines Top Streaming Song (Audio) Imagine Dragons, Radioactive Top Streaming Song (Video) Miley Cyrus, Wrecking Ball Top R&B Song Robin Thicke Feat. T.I. & Pharrell, Blurred Lines Top Rap Song Macklemore & Ryan Lewis Featuring Ray Dalton, Can't Hold Us Top Country Song Florida Georgia Line Featuring Nelly, Cruise Top Rock Song Lorde, Royals Top Latin Song Marc Anthony, Vivir Mi Vida Top Dance/Electronic Song Avicii, Wake Me Up! Top Christian Song Matthew West, Hello, My Name Is | ||
| How to Know You're Dating a Player Posted: 19 May 2014 03:03 AM PDT  Fran Creffield A player is usually very deceptive and manipulative. When one enters your life you could be forgiven for believing that they are a gift from the gods – that is exactly what they want you to think. Sadly this thin veil of deception often hides low self worth, an inability to form secure attachments and inevitably heartbreak when the deception is exposed. People who have been single for a long time, are lonely or who are struggling with their own self-esteem are particularly vulnerable to falling for a player but really no-one is exempt. Here are some of the main warning signs which can help you spot a one of these slippery characters if you are unfortunate enough to date one. In the beginning…. The beginning of a relationship with a player will usually feel like a whirlwind and you may be knocked off your feet by their charm, enthusiasm and interest in your life. They will work hard to make you believe, very quickly, that your life has no value without them. They will endeavour to be in your life right away helping with problems and offering to be there for you in all sorts of situations. Before long they are in the centre of your life and being charming, endearing and overly helpful with other people as they try to ingratiate themselves with your family and friends too. Look out for boasting, unsubstantiated claims, a lack of information about themselves and flashy or grandiose plans – if it all seems too good to be true, it probably is. As time goes on… The aim of a player is to win your affection and the mark that this has happened is often that the relationship becomes sexual – they have achieved their conquest. For others it will be when you say you love them, or in extreme cases, agree to marry them. Whatever the challenge is, once it is achieved the tide turns very suddenly as he or she backs off and you are left wanting. This will turn the tables and you may find yourself spending more money, time, energy and effort than you would normally to lure them back – maybe even compromising your own principals and standards to do so. You may also begin to realise that you don't really know very much about them – like where they live or work – and when you start to check out the things they have told you none of it really seems to stand up. Why are people players? Most players are looking for a fix for their fragile ego. They will say all the things you want to hear and will feel euphoric with your response because their ego will have got its much needed feeling of power and control. Fundamentally they are scared and feel unlovable so they are drawn to many intense, short relationships rather than longer, more sustained attachments which would expose their vulnerability. By using their charm, wit and skill to lure you into their trap they will get a temporary feeling of euphoria which – like an addict who needs a fix – gives them relief which soon wears off. They then feel compelled to leave and repeat the whole process again with their next victim – the thrill of the chase; the euphoria in succeeding; the downer when it wears off and the compulsion to do it again even if they are aware that their behaviour is damaging to themselves and those whose lives they touch. In the end… The world is full of players – in politics, industry and the arts as much as in everyday life. To a certain extent we are all playing – trying to negotiate relationships and situations so that we get our needs met and feel autonomous in our lives. A player in the romantic arena is a different matter because they are playing with people's hearts and emotions and exploiting people's vulnerability to get what they want. No one wants to be left feeling like a fool and the fear of this stops many people from dating at all. A much better strategy would be to learn to not give your heart away because someone flatters you and makes you feel a million dollars. Take time to get to know them and listen to your intuition. If someone is overly brash, confident, pushy or asks you to do anything that you feel uncomfortable about – e.g. loaning them money when you have just met – don't be afraid to cut contact and call customer services. 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| Trailer - Would You Pay $5000 To See JayZ and Beyonce ON THE RUN? Posted: 18 May 2014 11:11 AM PDT  Jay Z and Beyonce released the trailer for their summer tour which has been tagged RUN. The trailer is more of a short film, star studded, obviously big budget but filled with violence, car crashes and explosions. It is a Bonnie and Clyde story on which their up coming 'On the Run' tour is based. The tour tickets have been selling out and aare some of the most expensive of any pop concert in recent years costing over $300 on average. The front row seats alone is $5000. Now, I am a fan of Beyonce but I won't pay $5000 to see her, not even if I could afford it, lol. And I would not pay $300 to see this concert with Jay Z, who I'm not such a big fan of his music. But hey, I'm sure the tour will be sold out. Check out the trailer starring Jay Z, Beyonce, and some acting heavyweights - Sean Penn, Don Cheadle, Guillermo DÃaz, Emmy Rossum, Jake Gyllenhaal, Blake Lively, with Rashida and Kidada Jones.      | ||
| Drawing Eyebrows On Babies is Funny and Disturbing At the Same Time [Photos] Posted: 18 May 2014 12:13 PM PDT  Babies, babies and more babies! Babies uusually look cute and adorable though sometimes their facial expressions can be hilarious. What happens when you add thick eyebrows to the mix? Some parents were quite imaginative, using different eyebrow designs, and even moustaches and beards to create strangely adult looks on the babies. What is disturbing is that the babies can't ask you to stop drawing eyebrows on their faces, and why put it on the internet for the whole world to see? What do you think?                | ||
| Couple Love - Damilola Adegbite and Chris Attoh Celebrate Joint Birthday Posted: 18 May 2014 09:46 AM PDT  Damilola Adegbite and Chris Attoh are engaged, expecting their first child together, and soon to be married. It turns out the couple also share birthdays that are very close to each other. Chris has his birthday on the 17th while Damilola's is on the 18th. Their friends in Ghana threw a joint birthday celebration for them at Accra's Casino Royale. More photos when you continue       Pic via Ameyaw Debrah | ||
| Facebook Helps Reconnect Birth Mother and Her Adopted 23-year-old Daughter Posted: 18 May 2014 06:02 AM PDT  Colette Brasseur placed her daughter for adoption in 1991. She was enlisted in the Army and about to report to basic training when she learned she was pregnant. With little money or family support, she made the decision to find a better home for her baby using open adoption. She gave two pictures and several letters to Rosie and Don Bader, the couple she finally chose and through Facebook and the photo above, her daughter found her last December. The Baders kept in touch with Brasseur for a time, sending her photos of Natalie, and, as a condition of the open adoption, Brasseur gave them letters they could share with her daughter. One letter explained why she had chosen to give up Natalie for adoption, and another included photos that had been taken of mother and daughter shortly after Natalie's birth, as well as identifying details in case she ever wanted to find her birth mother. Via Today | ||
| Marquel, The One Black Guy on The Bachelorette Show is Hunky! Posted: 18 May 2014 05:01 AM PDT  The Bachelorette show on ABC has released the pictures and bios of the bachelors who will be vying for Andi's affections in the upcoming season starting this Sunday May 19. They always tease us non-white fans with one or two black contestants who rarely last beyond the first couple of weeks. This time, the bachelor contestant is hunk Marquel. Check out his bio; Bachelor Bio He's some good eye candy and I'll enjoy him and all the others while they last. I love the Bacholor shows especially when the couples end up together at the end of the season and then get married. Fingers crossed for Bachelorette Andi. More - ABC | ||
| Ohio Man Banned From Impregnating Women Till He Pays Off Back Child Support Posted: 18 May 2014 02:08 AM PDT  LOL. Asim Taylor, is one of those men sometimes referred to as "deadbeat dads", men who have children with women and then fail to provide for the kid's upbringing. In January 2013 Asim Taylor was banned by Judge James Walther from having anymore children for at least five years until he could prove that he was financially providing for the four children he already had. By then, Asim was almost $100,000 in debt for child support. An appeals court has now upheld the ruling, during which the Lorain County Probate Judge James Walther said, "It is a matter of common sense and personal responsibility." According to the ruling, if Asim impregnates another woman during the five years probation, he could go to jail. His attorney, Doug Merrill, appealed the case as he said it violates his client's rights. Merrill said in the defence that the only way to follow the order and to make absolute sure that his client does not impregnate another woman is to abstain from sex, and that basically forcing his client not to have sex violates Asim's rights. Now that the appellate court has upheld the judge's ruling, I wonder if they will go on to the Supreme Court. I do hope the man is more careful going forward, maybe he really should stay away from sex completely. ________ Via Fox17 | ||
| What Kim Kardashian Did With The Wall of Roses Kanye Gave Her For Mother's Day Posted: 18 May 2014 01:01 AM PDT  Kanye West talked yesterday [read here] about the wall of roses he lavished Kim Kardashian for her first Mother's Day celebration since giving birth to their daughter North last June. From giving her 1,000 roses for Valentine, this time, he gifted her a garden wall made up of roses, hydrangeas and peonies. So what did she do with it as the week begins to run out for the fresh flowers? Have a photoshoot! LOL...see the pictures below...    | ||
| Frank Donga's Back - Real Business Posted: 18 May 2014 12:04 AM PDT Everyone's favorite job seeker, Frank Donga, is back again but this time he is ready to step out on his own in the world of business. Will he be successful in taking this bold step? Watch and find out. Enjoy |
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