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- Couple Love - Kelly Rowland and Fiance Tim Witherspoon are Married
- Parents Of Chibok Schoolgirls Claim Their Daughters Are Not in The Video
- #bringbackourgirls - Former Zamfara Governor Sani Yerima Shares Hashtag Picture
- Pictures and Update From The Visionaries Hub Hangout Session
- Family Tales of Woes and Victories by BabaWilly
- The languages of love - what is yours?
| Couple Love - Kelly Rowland and Fiance Tim Witherspoon are Married Posted: 13 May 2014 08:18 AM PDT  It is being reported that Kelly Rowland and Tim Witherspoon her manager and fiance now husband, were secretly married in a low-key wedding on Friday May 9th in Costa Rica. Among their guests were Beyonce, Solange, their mother Tina Knowles, and the other member of Destiny's Child, Michelle Willams. RML wishes them a happy married life. See more pictures below.    |
| Parents Of Chibok Schoolgirls Claim Their Daughters Are Not in The Video Posted: 13 May 2014 08:36 AM PDT  Some parents of the girls abducted in Chibok, Borno State by Boko Haram terrorists have said they did not recognize their daughters in the latest video reportedly released by the leader of Boko Haram [see here]. Abubakar Shekau claimed in the video that the kidnapped Christian students had converted to Islam, and he would trade them for Boko Haram prisoners held by the Nigerian government. After the release of the video yesterday, Governor Shettima ordered the mass production for possible identification by parents. The governor thereafter directed the video to be shown to parents, some abducted but freed students, teachers and management staff of the school among others. CNN reports that Instead, some of the girls may have been taken in abductions dating back at least two years, an uncle of one of the girls who escaped and the parents of two missing girls told CNN. According to Vanguard, Mallam Zannah Chibok, one of the parents who had seen the video said he couldn't identify any of his daughters, pointing out that some of the faces in the video are not even students, as their ages can be put at between 30 and 40 years. If there are almost 300 schoolgirls missing, and there are just over 100 in the video, it is not surprising some of the parents will not have their daughters in it. But the truth is that beyond the girls abducted from the Chibok dormitory, several other women and girls have been kidnapped by Boko Haram over the past years and months they have been wreaking havoc in that part of the country. This may be an opportunity to get as many as possible of the women out of the clutches of Boko Haram. |
| #bringbackourgirls - Former Zamfara Governor Sani Yerima Shares Hashtag Picture Posted: 13 May 2014 07:36 AM PDT  I want to think this is a hoax being perpetuated by some groups of people who have photoshopped Sani Yerima into this picture, but it kind of looks real. This man should be the last person to hold up a hashtag campaign poster, he shouldn't even lead a street protest! No I am not talking of the fact that he is known to marry child brides, though that is part of it. But he has the means, the position and the power to DO SOMETHING to ensure the return of the abducted girls! Sani Yerima is a former governor, a currently serving senator, and I have no doubt he is also a muslim cleric and possibly has some way of reaching out to Abubakar Shekau and the other leaders of Boko Haram. The day is even late for awareness campaigns and hashtag activism. Oga Sani Yerima, please do better. Talk to those who know, and use your good office to #bringbackourgirls! |
| Pictures and Update From The Visionaries Hub Hangout Session Posted: 13 May 2014 07:11 AM PDT  Considering the current state of events and situation in Africa with a focus on Nigeria, it is obvious that there is need for immediate and continuous sensitization of the populace to demand strategic and solution oriented action from the leadership. Based on this a group of passionate Nigerian youths with the guidance of key Nigerian elder citizens gathered to deliberate with a solution driven perspective on issues of national interest as regards youth development and nation building [Read Here]. As a result of the youth-stakeholders forum, a report on the way forward focusing on key areas such as youth empowerment, business and economic development, leadership and education was developed and is being circulated. As originally designed the report from the forum is being circulated to key organizations and individuals, and initiatives are being developed by the network based on the hangout's feedback to drive the needed capacity development that will ensure sustainability of the aspired reforms as a complement to the effort and activities of other existing organizations and bodies. We would like to say a big THANK YOU to all that contributed to the success of the event and those that attended, as it is a constant reminder that there is hope and we can do more.       Profile of Speakers at The Visionaries Hub hangout Ms Yemisi Ransome-Kuti – Nigerian Network of Non- Government Organisation Born into the family of Late Azariah Olusegun (MBE) and Mrs. Folorunsho Ransome-Kuti, Yemisi had her education in both the UK and Nigeria with degrees and diplomas in Business, Management, Aesthetics, Counseling, and Human Resources Management. Olutola Oluyemisi Ransome-Kuti, mother of 4 and 2 grand children was born on 18th December 1947 and grew up with her cousins, Professor Wole Soyinka, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, Beko Ransome-Kuti etc. She is the grand daughter of Late Canon J.J Ransome-Kuti, only child of Late Azariah and Folorunsho Ransome-Kuti and is the current Head of the Ransome-Kuti Family. Her career saw her working with Multinationals, Ministries, Broadcasting Stations, and International Organizations as National Coordinator, Managing Director, Marketer, Newscaster and Producer, Chief Executive, Director General and Consultant. Organizations she worked for included Shell Nigeria Limited (Now Conoil), Institute of International Affairs, National AIDS/STD Control Programme (NASCP), Federal Ministry of Health Social Services, Western Nigerian Television Station (WNTV) & Western Nigerian Broadcasting Station (WNBS), International Institute for Tropical Agriculture (IITA), BBC London and the World Bank to mention a few. Mr. Durotimi Adeboye (Project Director / CEO Global Education Media) started his working career at the Federal College of Education (Special) Oyo, as a corper/lecturer after studying social sciences and management at the University of Ilorin in the 1980s. He later joined a marketing communications outfit where he rose to top level management position working on some blue chips accounts/brands like Toyota Motors, R.T. Briscoe, Peak Milk and GBO/MDS – Division of UAC of Nigeria Plc. Working with these successful organisations enabled him to garner very vital experience which has stood him in good stead in handling other challenging responsibilities ever since he came over to the United Kingdom to further his education and career as a teacher. Educated at the prestigious Canterbury Christ Church University in Kent, England where he completed his post-graduate studies in Citizenship Education and duly registered with the General Teaching Council for England as a professional teacher. He has since taught in schools across Kent and South East England while also doubling as the Head, Research and Publications for African Concern. A UK based publication focused on bringing to the front burner of global discourse, issues that affect African development. He is also a qualified Assessor with Oxford, Cambridge and RSA (OCR) – A British examination body. Currently, Durotimi is undertaking some research work in the area of Education, Development and Sustainability. Adedayo Thomas - Adedayo Thomas is affiliated with the Atlas Economic Research Foundation's Global Initiative for Free Trade, Peace and Prosperity and serves as the Publisher and Director of Outreach of its AfricanLiberty.org program. He is also affiliated with IMANI Center for Policy and Education, a think tank based in Ghana. Adedayo is libertarian and strives to promote ideas and institutions of the free society in the core institutions of Africa. Nigeria. Adedayo has a B A(Theatre Arts) and Post Graduate Diploma in Public Relations from University of Jos and Nigerian Institute of Journalism respectively, a Diplomate of Cato University in Philosophy, History, Jurisprudence, and Economics of Liberty and an MBA in Think -Tank management from the Atlas Economic Research Foundation in Washington D.C. Adedayo has undertaken many field research related to the provision of public services. He has written and presented several papers on economic development, conflict, good governance and democracy at national and international conferences. He co-authored -A letter from Jonathan Gullible based on the original novel, The Adventures of Jonathan Gullible by Ken Schoolland. He has published in both national and international print media. Adedayo has published the African Edition of In Defense of Global Capitalism by Johan Norberg, Selected Essays on Political Economyby Frederic Bastiat, Twenty Myths about Markets by Tom G. Palmer, and A letter from Jonathan Gullible (a play based on the original novel, The Adventures of Jonathan Gullible by Ken Schoolland) Dr. Joe Okei-Odumakin – President, Women Arise for Change Initiative, traversed courageously where men fear to tread. She remained consistent without minding the hazards to her person in a society where critical voices are loathed by unjust system which rewards the crook and punishes the just. She graduated in 1987 at the University of Ilorin where she got a BA.ED English and Education. She returned to the same school and bagged her M. Ed in Guidance and counseling and her Ph.D. (History and Policy of Education) in 1996. Dr. Joe Okei-Odumakin has over 25years experience in human rights work in Nigeria. She cut her teeth in activism as the Secretary of Women in Nigeria (WIN), Kwara State from 1988 – 1991 and the Coordinator of Women in Nigeria (WIN), Kwara State branch 1991 – 1996; Chairperson, Rethink Nigeria (1987 – 1992) and Chairperson, Committee for the Defense of Human Rights, Kwara State branch (1990 – 1996).Her foray into human rights activism was at a period when the Babangida dictatorship was baring its fangs and locking up critical voices. She became one of the targets of the administration as she was arrested and detained for not less than seventeen times at different locations: Division B Police Station Ilorin; Police Headquarters Ilorin; SSS Headquarters Ilorin; SSS HQ Maitama Abuja; Panti Police Station Lagos; Kirikiri Prisons in Lagos; and Alagbon Close in Lagos. She was the General Secretary Campaign for Democracy (CD) from March 1996 – July 29, 2006 (10 years) when she became the President on July 29, 2006. She is also the Executive Director of the Institute of Human Rights and Democratic Studies, the President of Women Arise for Change Initiative; Chairman, Task Force of the Citizen Forum, Spokesperson, Coalition of Civil Society Organizations and President, Centre for Change in Community Development and Public Awareness(CDP). She has received several awards at the national and international levels. Too numerous to mention: |
| Family Tales of Woes and Victories by BabaWilly Posted: 13 May 2014 01:21 AM PDT  Catching your child wasting family resources can spark anger. With that comes an intense desire to right all the wrong ideas they harbour about the intrinsic value of things they see in the family home. The usual vehicle for the attempt at transforming their behaviour is the 'lecture'. Unfortunately, angry professors make bad lecturers for they do not create a very good learning environment. And parents, rather than give an organised talk that has the traditional introduction, beginning, middle and an ending, will blast off into orbit unleashing random words that cannot be followed even with a NASA radar. Soon the topic is lost in a montage of accusations and personal attacks. 'You are wasteful. You are careless. You think money grows on trees? When I was your age….' Can it really be true that every single parent was a much more rounded and productive member of the society when they were the same age as their kids? The problem with family time is that the interactions occur after a hard day at work and being patient at these times can be tasking. If money is tight in the family, then you might as well douse the furniture and householders in kerosene and wait for the spark. The risk of an explosion is always inversely proportional to the family bank balance. I once had a chance meeting (in the kitchen) with a family member who had a quantity of undiluted squash in a glass and had turned on the cold water tap. Like all nosey parents, once an activity starts in your house, you wait to see how it would end abi? When the glass was full, the tasting process and the look on the face proved that the drink was too sweet. Like one watching a movie I had anticipated her next move and like a Hollywood director this family member proceeded to surprise me by pouring half the drink down the sink and turning the tap on again. While I might not be quick off the mark when the gun sounds like Mr Bolt, my reaction time when the need for a lecture arises is so quick, if timed I could be penalised for making a false start. 'That costs money. I don't work for the drain. I don't work for the bin either. You feed the bin more than you feed yourself. The bins are gaining weight and the drain has problems with sugar metabolism and you? Your weight is going down' I was in 'the flow' and rapidly going through the decibel gear changes. And the beat goes on. Once you start, they wear that look, and you know they don't agree with you but you talk on regardless, with intensity for, hopefully one or two words will penetrate. The girls get told, 'don't go to your husband's house and pour all his salary down the drain'. The poor naija girls under five years old always get confused with this nugget of naija wisdom. The boys are told, 'you are a man o! You will not live under this house forever throwing food in the bin, burning toast three consecutive times running and binning the lot. When you start paying bills, you will know'. If mum walks in to ask what the noise is, everyone is saved by the bell. Dad goes off to watch Chelsea on the telly with the parting shot to madam, 'better talk to these your children. I have said my own'. If oga forgets something in the kitchen and returns he might just make out madam consoling her six year old son with the words, 'don't mind him. Instead of buying a problem toaster with a good timer the stingy man is shouting'. Oh yes. Balance is key in Naija shouting admonitions. One gives a verbal lashing and the other draws the child close in an affectionate manner. God help the Naija child having both parents being fully signed up members of the Association of hard core shouting parental admonishers of Nigeria! (AOHCSPAON) Now compare this to the calm and measured way that those who tell the kids to do the absolute wrong things speak. The ones with bad advice are usually better dressed and articulate with more street credibility which impressionable minds flow blindly. Raising ones voice is not the way to go. It is really important to instil a sense of value in oneself and in the resources at one's disposal. A child who grows up not respecting their family name or their sense of identity is headed for prison. Talent must be harnessed, nurtured and disciplined. However once a parent gets on the activity treadmill of teaching a child how to walk, talk, dressing bathe and clothe itself, the parent has become a teacher for life. Apart from the instructional role, there is also the leadership role. Like all leaders parents want to be loved and appreciated for the sacrifices that come with the job. After all, acknowledging, respecting and valuing the efforts made on one's behalf is essential in life. Unfortunately the kids think that the parents are olodo or at best old fashioned. Anybody outside the home will invoke so much wonder and respect which has a detrimental effect on parental ego. What better way to assert parental supremacy than by being elaborate about the numerous obstacles and incidences of woe that have been endured and overcome through the years and how victory after victory was wrestled out of the jaws of that bad dragon called defeat. This is a special type of lecture. It is idle boasting and it serves no purpose save creating an illusion of passing pearls of profound wisdom down. Like a hunter with a loaded gun sits in the bushes patiently so the parent waits for the kill. The best time to pull the trigger is when a child asked for something especially when they take the granting their request is a forgone conclusion. 'You must think life is a bed of roses se?! So just because you saw an advert about Disney world I should leave what I am doing and take you there. You are spoilt o. Is it Mickey mouse that will pay the mortgage? When I was you age, who born me to suggest a holiday destination to my papa? Do you know what I did to get to this stage in life? I walked five miles to school and back. Sold bread off a tray balanced on this head every evening (slaps at his head for sound effects). Went hunting in the forests of Suru-Lere and killed antelopes for supper, swept the house clean and started my home work by 2am. I was up by 4am to do house work. And I still came first in every exam I did from primary school to university'. 'Daddy, what is first?' asks the six year old confused lad. 'Ah, I forgot. You people don't have positions in class anymore. You see yourself? Easy life. That is why you want to go to Disney after just one advert. My class was like the Premier League. I was in the Man United and Arsenal level. Top two finish every time. Common entrance examination into secondary school nko? That was the Champion's League and I was the intellectual Messi of my metaphorical Barcelona. I won the Champions league na ni. Going to Lagos and ask. No one has repeated my high scores to date. They still talk about my results' 'Dad, I am too young to go to Lagos. I am only six' says the lad. 'Oh, but not too young for Disney abi? I got a first class in university you know. I had no shoes. I used to kill snakes for breakfast with my bare hands. If I did not suffer, where would you be? I did it for you. I wrote three hundred and forty applications before I got my current job. I do so many hours and sweat blood for my pay' Child looks at mum who just walked in. 'Dad said he had the best result in Lagos state' 'He did?' 'Dad, are we still going to Disney?' 'I give up. You mother has spoilt you. I am off to watch Chelsea. Woman, talk to your son' PS- Members of AOHCSPAON in their defence always cite the London case. An Oxford engineering graduate was making a speech during his graduation party and thanked his neighbour for the fatherly advice which contributed to his success. His white parents looked at their Naija neighbour wondering when this advice took place. Mr Bankole himself was puzzled and asked, 'Tim, when did this advice session take place?' 'It was indirect advice actually. You always shouted loudly to Bola and Kola and I heard clearly through the walls, "read your books or you will die!" I got scared and thought you were going to break the wall and kill me also so I kept on reading'. Babawilly Dr Wilson Orhiunu 1-4-2014 |
| The languages of love - what is yours? Posted: 13 May 2014 09:51 AM PDT  I have come across this a few times, how do you want your partner to show love to you. There is even a book called the five languages of love. Read the scenario below and let's discuss... ******************************* Chioma and Obinna have been going out for six months. For Chioma, it's been a wonderful experience. Obinna is honest, attentive, caring, supportive and generous - a refreshing change from the lowlifes that she has dated in the past. Add to that that he is well-built, intelligent and good-looking, and she can truly say that he is the perfect person for her, except for just one thing... When Chioma started going out with Obinna, she noticed immediately that he was not very expressive, quite stoic in fact. She didn't mind this at the time, especially because some of the guys she had been out with in the past had been smooth talkers - and where did that get her when she found that they had been using their silver tongues to get other girls on the side? So she was glad Obinna was matter-of-fact, their relationship had started after months of platonic friendship while working together. But now it was beginning to get on her nerves. Chioma loves hearing expressions of endearment as much as she loves saying them. Hearing those three magic words "I love you" from someone that she really cares for never fails to light up her day. Obinna had only said it once, a day she had kicked up a fuss after a major disagreement. She decided they had to talk again about this. She told Obinna that oh, she didn't want to nag, but he knew that saying he loved her really made her happy. Maybe he could say it more often, send her some love notes or poems, even be more receptive of her public displays of affection. Obinna responded by saying that she knew the kind of person he was when they started dating. Honestly, he said, he had never been the demonstrative kind of person; he grew up in an environment where such displays of emotion were discouraged or not practiced. He was not used to it, it made him uncomfortable and he preferred their affairs being private. Besides, he continued, it wasn't as if he didn't show her how much he loved her in other ways, like spending quality time with her, doing things for her when she needed help or support and buying her gifts. Chioma said that she truly appreciated these gestures, but she didn't really understand how difficult it could be just to open your mouth and express how you felt or even write it down. So she didn't really think she was asking for that much. Obinna countered by saying that it wasn't fair for her to prescribe to him how he should express his love to her. How would she feel if he told her that she must wash all his clothes, cook for him all the time and clean after him to show how much she loved him? But she wasn't insisting, Chioma retorted... The discussion did not end conclusively, and for Chioma, the issue still lingers. Obinna knows this, and has asked whether he should record his voice saying "I love you" so that she can hear that as an alarm ring tone on her phone when she wakes up, but Chioma thinks that is a sign that he is treating the matter unseriously. She doesn't know whether she should look elsewhere as Obinna doesn't look like changing his stance, or whether she should just learn to live with it... _______ Read More top posts; How to have lasting online romance - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2012/11/how-to-have-lasting-online-romance.html Safety tips for online dating - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2012/08/safety-tips-online-dating-social- Arranged Marriage versus personal choice - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2012/11/arranged-marriage-versus-personal-choice.html Can Online dating become lasting love? - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2010/07/can-online-love-become-lasting-love.html How to Express love to your wife - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites. 9 Ways to know when you're in Love - http://www.romancemeetslife.com/2012/11/9-ways-to-know-when-youre-in-love.html How to Find out Reason for relationship breakup - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2013/03/wanting-to-know-reason-for-break-up.html Steps to a successful relationship - http://www.romancemeetslife.com/2010/10/steps-to-successful-relationship.html How to deal with unrequited love or the friend zone - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2012/12/unrequited-love-lets-call-it-friend-zone.html |
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