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- 8 Ways to Spend The Day of Your Wedding Anniversary
- Half of a Yellow Sun Movies Premieres April 11 in the UK - See New Trailer
- Would You Divorce Your Spouse For Becoming Too Rich After You Met Them Poor?
- Why You Should Not Call Your Daughter Bossy But a Boss Lady
| 8 Ways to Spend The Day of Your Wedding Anniversary Posted: 12 Mar 2014 12:23 PM PDT  Your wedding anniversary is the remembrance of the date your wedding took place in the years following it. The wedding anniversary should be at least as important as your birthday, and should have higher priorites than any public holidays we celebrate, except maybe Christmas. To make it special is to recognize that the relationship you have with your spouse is pecial. Here are some loving ways to mark your anniversary and that will make you remember that day for weeks and months to come, or even till your next anniversary and beyond.; 1. Spend quality time together alone - If you have children at home, arrange for a baby sitter and go off just the two of you, or take them over to the grandparentse and stay home. Make this day something special for that just you and your spouse, breakfast/brunch in bed, a dinner of your favorite meals, smooth music, slow dancing, sweet nothings, the works. 2. Give your spouse a pleasant surprise - Gifts or activities are often more fun and meaningful if given as a surprise. Have they been asking for something for some time, or wishing you or they were able to do something different. Now is the time to make those dreams come true. 3. Travel - Take a trip to some place you have always wanted to visit. This one is hard to pull off every year so save them for those special milestone anniversaries like the 5th, 10th, 25th or 50th anniversary. It doesn't have to be expensive but it needs to be well planned. If you save in advance you might even make it a treat, like a cruise, winter in Hawaii, a week at Obudu, etc. 4. Send each other messages of love - These include store-bought cards, poetry written by yourselves, post it notes placed on the mirror, love letters hidden in her purse, and if you need some inspiration, check out this anniversary quotes website.  5. Make a video or a slideshow of the pictures you have taken in your years as a couple and then watch it together. You can do this alone or share it with your children and friends. 6. A Staycation - One day can go by too quickly when you're having fun. So why not take as many days off as you would if you were travelling and then spend the whole time at home. It saves you money and travel inconveniences so you only enjoy the advantages of a vacation and none of the aggravations. 7. Re-do some of the things you did while dating - This is more possible if you're still living in the city or area where you met each other. Go to the football game where he burst into tears after his team won, visit the castle where he proposed and she cried, stay again at that hotel where you had your honeymoon and made love for the first time, you get the idea :) 8. Renew your marriage vows. If it has been a tough year emotionally for both of you, or just one that has been filled with love, it may be a good idea to repeat your marriage vows. Print out a copy of the one used at your marriage ceremony or write new ones. Say them to each other alone, explaining and buttressing each line with real life happenings in your life, or invite friends and family to be part of the ceremony. Happy marriage everyone! |
| Half of a Yellow Sun Movies Premieres April 11 in the UK - See New Trailer Posted: 12 Mar 2014 10:25 AM PDT  Half Of A Yellow Sun movie is based on the bestselling novel of the same title by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, and follows the lives and loves of four people against the backdrop of the 1967-1970 Nigerian-Biafran war. Biyi Bandele adapted the screenplay and directes, and it stars Chiwetel Ejoifor, Thandie Newton, Anika Noni Rose, Dominic Cooper and John Boyega as Ugwu. The movie has now gotten the greenlight and will open in the U.K. on April 11th. I hope it comes to the US this summer too. ) |
| Would You Divorce Your Spouse For Becoming Too Rich After You Met Them Poor? Posted: 12 Mar 2014 07:51 AM PDT  Former maths teacher Tony Hawken, 57, is splitting from Xiu Li, 51, because he says he is fed up with being wealthy.The couple were catapulted into the world of the super-rich after Li's idea of building shopping centres in disused Chinese air-raid shelters earned her an estimated £1.1billion by 2011 and placed her on The Sunday Times Rich List. Would you toe Mr Hawken's line or would you stay and enjoy the money? |
| Why You Should Not Call Your Daughter Bossy But a Boss Lady Posted: 12 Mar 2014 12:30 AM PDT  Yesterday, there was the news that the Girl Scouts with support from Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, wants to ban the word bossy, used as a perjorative against little outspoken girls who begin to show leadership qualities early in life. A discussion with Atala took me down memory lane. I remember I was called stubborn a lot growing up. A lot of people grumbled when between 8 - 9 years, I would lead my younger brother and other boys our age in exploring the neighborhood, we also climbed trees and played football. Sometimes when we fought, I emerged victorious. My mother took strict action when at 10 I took my first common entrance exams. My leading the troop, tomboy days were basically over as I got locked indoors to focus on getting ready for the exams. I also got instructions on how to be a girl, the only allowed play being dancing, and oga'. Since those got boring quickly, I buried my head in novels where Georgiana of the Famous Five, gave me life. But bossines in a book set in fantasy England is different from bossiness in Enugu, Nigeria. My first incident of bullying was in primary 6 when a classmate punched me on the playground for being a stubborn girl. I was the class captain, he had told me to remove his name from the list of noisemakers and I refused. So at break time, he found me and meted justice. Some words he hurled before his fist flew included stubborn, bossy, ITK (I too know or know it all for the uninitiated). He told me that as a girl, and a small one at that, I should do what he told me. I tried to fight back but I was not punching in my size, I'm short now, then I was tiny, and he was easily the biggest in our class. I was 11 years old. Those words have stayed with me. Bossy, Pushy, Aggressive, Stubborn, Assertive. As a teenager, I tried to tone down that part of me, while being groomed in Queen's school to be seen and not heard, and at Science School, to obey before complain. I stopped raising my hands to ask or answer questions in class. I stopped pushing myself forward for positions of authority among my peers. When appointed, I played the role poorly just so I did not tick anyone off. At home, I was being groomed to be a young woman who would soon get married, and my mom and everyone, including the home videos warned me I would never find or keep a man with an outspoken attitude. That warning of being unmarried was supposed to strike fear into my life, and partly it did. Though I still got into one or two fights, mostly, I stayed away from leadership positions and kept my mouth shut when I could. But I continued to read novels, and the people I met in them kept telling me that some things I dreamed off could only be got from being pushy. So those traits stayed with me though I was a quite confused by then. My first year in Uni was the epitome of all this confusion. Did I want to be a doctor or not? But a doctor had to be a leader, right? Why should I get a first class when I was a second class person? Should I focus on books or boys, seeing as some of my classmates were already getting married? Who should I please, myself or the society represented by the men around me? My poor results woke me up. Forget society, I was not happy at my performance, and I knew I could do better if I allowed myself to be more assertive, and to begin to raise my hand up again in class. But I got in trouble for it soon enough. With a Senate position campaign under my belt, as well as two consecutive years on the executive of our dept. association, and some stints as class rep or assistant, a male coursemate slapped me when we were in final year. By then I was more mature, so I turned the other cheek. The particular reason for the attack I cannot remember now, but it had to do with me trying to "boss" him around. Anyway, that incident still didn't cure me of my pushiness and by the time I graduated uni, I stopped apologizing for being bossy, and started striving to be a boss in all parts of my life. Today, I'm happy with being a boss lady. There may have been road blocks and detours but those were all chance. If I had begun to doubt or change who I was so as to please some boys and men my life would have definitely been less happy and less fulfilled than it is. And although I survived being called bossy, I know that some other girl's ambitions could have been truncated by those very words. So I say yes to Ban Bossy ) I know it's a controversial campaign, and may never take off. But the fact is that girls are called bossy four times more than boys, and women face the same in the workplace where bossy is used in a way to make them feel ashamed of themselves when they try to assert themselves or lead others. I also know that bossy can sometimes mean that a person is overbearing and egotistical, and loves to dominate without taking other people's feelings or contributions into account. If that is your little girl, friend or work colleague, correct in love with the right words, not bossy. However, if your little girl is simply exhibiting leadership skills in the way that other children follow her lead happily, then encourage her. Do not call her bossy or try to put her in her place, behind the boys. That could be the future president you just replaced. |
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