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- Family Time - Pastor Adeboye With Children and Grandchildren
- Pastor Refuses to Perform Wedding Ceremony because of the Bride’s ‘Sexy Dress’
- Kenji, the Robot Programmed to Love - True Story or Hoax?
- 10 Marriage Secrets Of Highly Successful Couples
- Dear Myne - He Married For Papers in the UK But Now Wants to Marry Me?
- When The Husband Gets To Choose The Wedding Color Theme - Expect the Unexpected
- Nigerian Designer, Uyo Okebie, Showcases Maternity Lingerie Line With Pregnant Models
- Before You Take Photos With Your Smartphone, Turn off The Geo-Tagging
| Family Time - Pastor Adeboye With Children and Grandchildren Posted: 14 Aug 2013 05:04 PM PDT  Pastor Adeboye is the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, based in Nigeria but with branches all over the world. He recently bought a private jet to enable him meet his obligations to his global congregation. The RCCG Church also recently announced plans to build a multi-billion Naira church. In addition to all this, he is a parent, a father and grandfather.
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| Pastor Refuses to Perform Wedding Ceremony because of the Bride’s ‘Sexy Dress’ Posted: 14 Aug 2013 04:59 PM PDT
This story reminds me of the outrage of pastors in Deeper Life Church Nigeria after pictures of John and Love Kumuyi's wedding in Jamaica appeared online. This story happened in Houston, and involves African Americans. The wedding did not go on after the pastor stood his ground that the bride's wedding dress was not suitable for a church wedding. He even disallowed another minister among the wedding guests to carry out the ceremony. It is his church after all. I thought this only happened in Nigeria. The writer over at ContraCulture disagrees saying, "I find it most interesting because I am trying to think whether this is even possible in Naija, after all the preparations had been completed and money spent! Most Nigerian churches, particularly the more conservative churches, have a dress code. I would have thought the pastor would have informed the couple before agreeing to wed them. The pastor who officiated my wedding told me what was acceptable and what was not.Weddings have been disrupted for other reasons (mostly one half of the couple is married to someone else). But pastor refusing to marry them because of the bride's dress? Never heard of it o. Have you?" What do you think? According to Americanpreachers.com; The wedding scheduled Saturday, August 10th, was scheduled for 3pm. At 2pm, the pastor greeted the bride and groom when he noticed the bride's dress. According to the bride's mother, the pastor jokingly asked 'where is the other half of the dress?' Not thinking anything of it, the family laughed it off and continued applying make-up on the bride. Around 2:30pm the pastor asked a leader of the church to ask the bride and the family about the other part of her dress. The bride informed the leader 'this is it'. The leader reported the news to the pastor and then the pastor informed personally the bride and groom at separate times he could not perform the wedding with the bride in her selected dress. The pastor told the bride she would have to cover up her breast area and find a way to add length to the dress. The bride informed the pastor there is no way to accomplish this with so short of a notice and she has to wear her dress. Then the pastor informed her he would not be able to perform the ceremony then walked back to his office. | ||||||||
| Kenji, the Robot Programmed to Love - True Story or Hoax? Posted: 14 Aug 2013 02:28 PM PDT  Soon after I started blogging back in 2009, I came across this story about Kenji, a "third generation humanoid robot" that was capable of love. The story goes on to say that Kenji developed intense feelings for a young female intern at the lab, and would hug her for hours or until deactivated. When this extended to Kenji falling for any body he first sees after being switched on, he had to be permanently deactivated. Now, I just found out that the story was a hoax started by Muckflash, a site similar to The Onion, which breaks satirical or all-out caricature news stories. Some of you may know the Onion, which is still churning out their muck, but the Muckflash site is down making it harder to know how they came about with the story, whether it was true or not. Geekologie, the site that brought Kenji to prominence still carry it. Still, sites like Motherboard on Vice are convinced the story was made up, and some of the initial sites that carried the story, like Gizmodo and Reality Pod have updated their pages to show it was all a hoax. Check out the story below and share in the comments if you immediately recognize it as real or fake.  Researchers at Toshiba's Akimu Robotic Research Institute were thrilled ten months ago when they successfully programmed Kenji, a third generation humanoid robot, to convincingly emulate certain human emotions. At the time, they even claimed that Kenji was capable of the robot equivalent of love. Now, however, they fear that his programming has taken an extreme turn for the worst. Also, what do you think about robots being programmed to love, is it a good thing or too scary to think about. Who remembers Watson from Jeopardy? A robot who can supposedly 'think'. | ||||||||
| 10 Marriage Secrets Of Highly Successful Couples Posted: 14 Aug 2013 01:02 PM PDT  By Victor M. Parachin You know those couples whose love you envy? Here's how to be one of those couples. Over lunch with a friend one day, Kevin was asked about the "secret of your obviously happy and healthy love relationship." Kevin responded, "I married a wonderful woman and made the commitment to apply myself to the relationship with the same energy that I place into other important areas of my life: school, work, health, friendships. I didn't want to be casual about the relationship nor take it for granted. My partner has pretty much done the same thing. Consequently, we make a great team. I can't imagine being without her." Highly successful couples like Kevin and his wife know that making the relationship a top priority is vital. They don't allow it to derail. They know the ingredients that are necessary to keep each other content, happy, healthy and satisfied. To put it simply, philosopher Paul Tillich observed, "Any deep relationship to another human being requires watchfulness and nourishment." So listen up: Here are the 10 secrets of highly successful couples: 1. Successful couples enjoy each other. It's just that simple. They like to be together, talk together, do things together. Former Beatle Ringo Starr has been married to his wife Barbara for more than three decades. He says the "secret" to the couple's longevity is this: "I'm just blessed that she puts up with me. I love the woman. She loves me. There are less down days than up, and we get on really well. We spend a lot of time together. That's the deal." 2. Successful couples fight skillfully. "In conflict, be fair and generous," is wisdom from The Tao. When two people live together, they are bound to have differences of opinion and disagreements. Successful couples fight but do it skillfully; in a way that leaves the relationship stronger, not weaker. One technique they employ is their choice of words. For example, University of California (Berkeley) researchers looked at "connected" couples and discovered that they tend to use plural pronouns ("we", "us" and "ours") rather than singular pronouns ("I", "me" and "mine"). As a result, they were less likely to feel stressed out after the disagreement than couples who used singular pronouns. "Using 'we language' during a fight helps couples align themselves on the same team, as opposed to being adversaries," notes lead author Benjamin Seider. 3. Successful couples seek and offer forgiveness. They may not forgive and forget, but they do forgive and let it go. When they have done something wrong or hurtful, they offer an apology. When they are the wronged party, they accept the gift of an apology. Successful couples travel the pathway toward forgiving, which is outlined by author Clarissa Pinkola Estes, who cites these four stages for arrival at complete forgiveness: -- Forgo: Take a break from thinking about the person or event for a while. -- Forebear: Abstain from punishing, neither thinking about it nor acting on (the offense) in small or large ways. Give a bit of grace to the situation. -- Forget: Refuse to dwell; let go and loosen one's hold, particularly on memory. To forget is an active -- not passive -- endeavor. -- Forgive: Make a conscious decision to cease to harbor resentment, which includes forgiving a debt and giving up one's resolve to retaliate. 4. Successful couples are in it for the long haul. "There are only two options regarding commitment. You're either in or you're out. There's no such thing as life in between," says professional basketball coach Pat Riley. Successful couples don't just make promises to each other; they commit. After a marriage that spans 30 years, a couple named Doris and Jim say, "We are happy together because we have lived out our vows -- for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sickness and in health." When Doris was in a serious auto accident a few years ago she remembers that "Jim was there all the way. He's an incredible husband, the most selfless person. He's the only person in the world I know I can count on." 5. Successful couples are positive about each other. Marriage researcher John Gottman, Ph.D, says happy couples have relationships "characterized by respect, affection and empathy, and they pay close attention to what's happening in each other's lives." Furthermore, his research reveals that happy and stable couples "made five positive remarks for every one negative remark when they were discussing conflict. In contrast, couples headed for divorce offered less than one positive remark for every single negative remark." 6. Successful couples learn and grow together. One couple, after being married for 30 years, decided they would both return to university for master's degrees in liberal arts. "It took us nearly five years. We had a great time being in class together, studying together, reading together. The program allowed us to expand our horizons as we took courses in religion, politics, literature, history, foreign policy. We even persuaded one professor to let us write a paper together: joint authors!" Partners in successful couples play to each other's strengths and interests. If one partner becomes more health conscious, the other joins. If one partner takes up a new activity, the other partner becomes supportive and involved. The end result is a stronger emotional bond and a deeper love. 7. Successful couples never stop dating. That was one of the "secrets" of a happy relationship uncovered by Matthew Boggs and Jason Miller. The duo traveled over 12,000 miles searching and interviewing people they called "marriage masters" -- those married 40 years or more. One common element to many marriage masters was their ability to keep the romance going. Some set aside one evening a week for a date, others planned romantic getaways periodically, while others still met most afternoons for conversation at a coffee or tea shop. 8. Successful couples bring each other joy. In his book, The Real Rules of Life: Balancing Life's Terms with Your Own, Ken Druck, Ph.D, tells about a workshop he gave to his wife as a birthday gift. "She had a beautiful voice that she rarely used. What better gift than to unleash the joy she already possessed." In the workshop, participants of every age and background were encouraged to "vanquish the wagging finger of self-condemnation and sing their hearts out." The workshop high point was a live concert for family and friends. "With the exception of our children's births, I can never recall my wife as having been so joyful and happy." 9. Successful couples adhere to the 60/40 rule. Boggs and Miller also discovered that "marriage masters" have a high level of selflessness. "Walter" whom they interviewed, told them, "I'll never forget what my mentor told my wife and me before we got married 42 years ago. He looked at us and said, 'Most people think marriage is 50/50. It's not. It's 60/40. You give 60. You take 40. And that goes for both of you." It was a principle Walter and his wife adhered to faithfully. 10. Successful couples have shared values. When asked about her successful relationship of 58 years, "Emma," age 87, smiled and proudly said, "It is quite an achievement. It's important to have the same basic values. In other words, if you're a free spender, marry someone who understands that. If you're frugal, you need to marry someone who understands that because money is one of the stumbling blocks in marriage. Fortunately, we had the same values on most things. We usually had the same goals -- we believed in education; we wanted to be moral; we wanted to raise children to be good citizens and to be responsible in terms of finances." Poet Robert Browning put the secret to successful couples in a nutshell when he wrote, "Success in marriage is more than finding the right person: It is being the right person." First published on YourTango | ||||||||
| Dear Myne - He Married For Papers in the UK But Now Wants to Marry Me? Posted: 14 Aug 2013 09:10 AM PDT  Hi Myne, I was friends with Osi before he travelled but it was nothing serious, we even lost contact. We reconnected and started talking. Na him love enter the story we started Romancing. Fast forward to December he came home and lodged in a hotel so i went to meet him there, we talked gisted like old time friends and i left but as the detective wey i be i de try scan the environment for clues on his personality. I had to travel while he was around so we did not see that much when it was almost time for him to go back i got my leave so he begged that i come to spend the night considering we hadn't spent much time together. I refused but after much thought i went to spend the night with him. He stepped out to be with some friends and i jumped to action trying to ransack his stuff, from used condoms in the bin to some messages on his fone and pictures on his laptop i started putting 2+2 together. I liked him, he was a great guy but i dey do my own things with head so when he came back to the room i asked him what he wanted and if theres anything he feels i need to know and so on and we talked. He was sincere and said he sees a future. Me i went to bed in my jeans fully kitted, he also slept until i felt something poking me and i woke up. Oga wetn dey happen, he said we should "do". I think say na joke na him we begin wrestle ooo till about 4am, i no gree. I told him i saw d used condoms he said thats a one-off its me he likes. I carried my bags and left in the morning laughing at the whole scenario. He apologized and we continued our "undefined relationship" over the phone, He came visiting later in the year and after my detective rounds I realised he may have "married" for papers. I was devastated. I did not tell him point blank I had found out so i was enjoying his company and playing safe leaving him to do whatever he wants as i had nothing to loose. He started coming home about three times a year to see me and spend time buying me gifts and all. I liked him a lot but i did not loose guard still. He was always furious i wont let him sleep with me and still he would keep coming back to me.I even fooled him a couple of times into thinking he got through because he was so forceful. I had my reservations about the whole relationship. Things have gotten serious now and he is talking marriage in December. I keep asking him if theres anything i need to know and he says not at all but i want to be very sure that i am not mistaken with my assumptions. How do i ask him straight without it seeming like i intruded on his privacy because he knows i go through his stuff, he may even suspect i know but wants me to say it first. I do not want any problem for my life, i know they do not live together, he paid her off to get his stay in the UK but i do not live abroad, i dont know how this things work. My sister says its no big deal that its what people do to survive abroad. But i cant see myself as a second wife or a naija wife because thats what it will be, Who knows i may not be able to use his name or travel to the Uk with his name. He has asked me what i feel about living abroad on the other hand he says he is making plans to move back home. Not the one i will marry him and he will travel back and leave me alone in the Ikeja apartment he has rented the last time he came home. TO ALL THE PEOPLE INVOLVED IN LDR-long distance relationship, Make sure you do your findings well. How do i sort this issue once and for all, Is it ok to marry him still if he confesses to it believing its not harmful and he had to do the needful. I like him for who he is and not for what he has. I am employed and well to do. Abi make i just waka, i be correct Fresh fish, no time. Please who has been in this situation???? | ||||||||
| When The Husband Gets To Choose The Wedding Color Theme - Expect the Unexpected Posted: 14 Aug 2013 04:07 AM PDT  It is usually the bride who takes charge of most aspects of the wedding day, especially the color theme. Men who are interested pick up the logistics aspect. But sometimes, even men have their favorite colors and want to see it refected on their wedding day. That was exactly what happened with John Jones from South Wales and his wife Kelly Williams, who had their wedding last month. John, a carpenter, loves black and yellow which is the brand color of his favorite tools, so he convinced his wife to allow them use black and yellow for their wedding theme.  While I have nothing against black and yellow, I agree they're not the most common colors for a wedding, especially as this new husband also wanted his bride to wear a yellow gown to complement the black suit with yellow tie that him, best man and three groomsmen wore. She drew line at that and wore a traditional white wedding dress instead. Even more interesting is their yellow and black wedding cake. The cake has with miniatures of the groom in his black and yellow carpenter's uniform and the bride in white.    H/T - Mail Online | ||||||||
| Nigerian Designer, Uyo Okebie, Showcases Maternity Lingerie Line With Pregnant Models Posted: 14 Aug 2013 02:07 AM PDT  Mom of two, Uyo Okebie-Eichelberger, and former employee of Kraft's brand management department became a fashion designer when she realised during and after her first pregnancy how boring maternity undies were. Those that looked even arginally good would cost an arm and a leg. So Uyo did her own market research, and launched You! Lingerie in 2010 to provide stylish and affordable underwear for mothers. Three years later, the company is doing well, selling from their online site, as well as in stores in America and beyond. Uyo showcased her new maternity lingerie line some days ago at the Fashion Week in New York. With models from Expecting Models Inc., You! Lingerie presented their Maternity and Nursing Collection for expecting and breastfeeding moms. Check out the pictures below;       You can get these lingerie at the You! Website. | ||||||||
| Before You Take Photos With Your Smartphone, Turn off The Geo-Tagging Posted: 14 Aug 2013 12:07 AM PDT  Smartphone pictures could expose your privacy when you upload them online because they take along with them details about where they were taken and even the owner of the phone, their address, and more. So any pictures you've e-mailed or uploaded from your smartphone could actually threaten your safety or that of your family and friends if this information gets into the wrong hands. How to stop this risk? Turn off the geo-tagging or location function of your camera in the settings. I did this for my blackberry and also for my Galaxy, not for this reason, but because it slowed down my picture taking Hearing this news, I'm glad I do that. See the video below for more details. |
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