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Friday, July 12, 2013

Romance Meets Life

Romance Meets Life

Help For Sexual Assault Victims in Lagos

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 03:07 PM PDT


A new sexual assault referral center has just been opened in Lagos by an NGO called Partnership for Justice. Named, The Mirabel Centre, it is located at the Lagos State Teaching Hospital, Ikeja with tel: 0811 555 4877 or 0818 724 3468 or 01-295 7816. It is open every working day from 8 30am to 5 30pm. Please if you know anyone who is a victim, do share these details.


The Mirabel Centre, is a safe, friendly and private place that provides holistic and quality services and support to survivors of sexual assault in a compassionate and caring manner, in a way that
respects each individual's specific need and rights to make choices about how to address these needs.

The Mirabel Centre provides the following services
A. Medical examination and treatment for illness and injuries caused by the assault
B. Counselling (face to face and telephone) to help cope with emotional and psychological effects of rape
C. Help reporting to the police
D. Information on the legal system
E. Referral to other agencies for help not provided at the Centre.

All the services at the Centre, including drugs, are provided free. Doctors and nurses working at the Centre are trained forensic medical examiners and the counselors have undergone training on sexual assault trauma. Confidentiality is a key principle at the Centre.

Dear Myne - Two Men Want To Marry Me, Who Do I Choose?

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 03:07 PM PDT


I am a 26 year old professional working in Nigeria who got in a relationship last year with a wonderful man who is another professional working in the UK. We met via a social network, he had actually been trying via this social network to contact me since 2010 but I just hadn't been interested at the time because I had just ended a year old relationship which had left me rather distraught.


We had loved each other desperately, or so I thought, but, he obviously loved his mum much more who, for some reason, did not quite want her oil-company-employed son to bring home any girl at his ripe age of 37!

He did plead for me to wait awhile so we could keep walking on egg-shells around his mum, fetting and petting her and I did until, he started to change and withdraw and I saw no reason to stay on.
Men can just be that weak when it came down to familial pressures of any kind.

So, there the guy in the UK was, emailing me, calling me (I still don't know how he got my number) and I wasn't budging.
And then, after a while, he stopped.

Fast-forward, 2012; this guy started to call again and it so happened to be the same person and, suffice to say that I was really in a more congenial predisposition to go into a committed relationship and that was how we begun.
I have to say, he has been a truly wonderful person.
And I totally trust him. Totally.
He did try to secure me a visa to visit but that was denied, whereupon he has visited Nigeria twice to be with me.

On the second visit, he decided he needed to tell his family about me and upon inquiries from his family, his father didn't like my place of origin, precisely, my hometown.
It so happened that they had been through a really rough time with a particular family therein who had been their in-laws and who proved to be the worst type of in-law any family would pray for one of theirs to marry into.
As it stood in any case, the marriage had only recently packed up with accusations of voodoo and witchcraft being labelled against the mother-in-law who eventually, as the allegations went, took the life of my boyfriend's mother.
Hence, they did not want to hear of it.

He did not tell me out rightly.
I just knew that something had happened and that he left Nigeria upset with his family but I couldn't place my finger on the reason until I asked a few days later that he tell me the truth about what occurred- which he did.
This opposition wasn't easy for me to bear as I had been in the boat before but he wouldn't hear of us going our separate ways.  The communication was still awesome, our plans were still rolling, albeit, a lot slower than it was supposed to be with him leading the pace with an alert feet on the brakes...

Then, I met someone else here in Nigeria.
I have to say, it was like fireworks.
I had never made such a connection at the first instance with anyone in my life, it usually took a couple of meetings and getting to know a person better.
However, this was different, mutual, reciprocated in far greater quantum and, I realised, it was the first time the person in question had ever felt this way about a woman in his entire life- as told by his family, friends and himself and to which they all attest to.
I played coy for a while, told him the truth about my relationship status- I had a boyfriend in the UK who I was in love with
(I did not need to "tell" him, he "saw"), would not quite show the fact that the likeness was mutual but then,
who was I fooling?
My attraction was probably glaring to all and sundry.
Bottom line is, we are in love.
And I'm in love with two men.
Two men who want to marry me and I cannot quite understand how I got to this spot.
I probably should not tell this because I am not going to go,
"Oh, Myne, what do I do?". No.
I do know what to do, but it is difficult.
Because it would mean that I would hurt one of them and they are such beautiful souls...
The one in Nigeria knows he may probably get the axe, but he's hoping and praying it'll work out for him- and I truly don't understand that type of love, or faith- I have often thought and wondered if it is possible he can hold this stance because he probably also has an option on the side and then, I realised, he doesn't.
I just pray God to direct me accordingly, the one in the UK is coming back and he says the opposition from his family's been lifted but I cannot help wondering;
Will they truly, wholeheartedly, accept and embrace me into their family?

Well, I hope the story wasn't a bore.
I also hope that in not too long a time, I send you a sequel to it which, here's hoping still, will be the story of... The process leading up to a union and then, another of the union proper.

The 2013 Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria Contestants

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 12:11 PM PDT


Between the Miss Nigeria pageant, the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria, and their male counterparts, I'm beginning to know all the states in Nigeria again. The MBGN contest will hold on the 20th of July in Bayelsa State. Miss Katsina above, who we all know is probably not from Katsina is my favorite, love her dimples. Check out the others below and tell me who is yours?

Omotola Jalade and Others at the TFA Nominees Reception Hosted by the U.S. Consulate

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 10:01 AM PDT


The Future Awards Nominees Reception held yesterday at the U.S Consul General's Residence in Lagos, and in attendence was Omotola Jalade who presented some of the nominee's certificates. The consul-general was also there with his wife, along with Toke Makinwa, Ufuoma Ojenebor, among others.

Couple Love - Toolz and Tunde Demuren

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 03:08 PM PDT


Toolz was very reticent about her personal life and relationship earlier this year but recently, she and Tunde Demuren have been more open and often go as each others dates to public event and are photographed together on red carpets. I love that they're almost almost smiling or laughing in their ppictures :)








PS. I think after Yvonne spoke out about her botched secret relationship with Iyanya, other celebrities decided to learn from her experience.

Will You Accept For Your Man to Cheat Because You're Celibate?

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 07:53 AM PDT


So, Nick Carey and Mariah Carey Waited To Get Married Before Sex. Back in December, Nick Cannon told Howard Stern that he and Carey, 40, didn't have sex until they were officially married, candidly revealing on Stern's radio show, "It was Mariah Carey. If Mariah Carey gave a bad blowjob, I'm still going in ... Either way she's still one of the most beautiful women that ever walked the planet."





But there was something he said that got my eyebrows snapping up, he said there were other girls he was going with at the same time he was talking with and probably dating Mariah Carey. The sense was he was having sex with the other women, while Mariah Carey had her standards and kept him at arms length in the physical sense.

Now, I don't know if she was aware of the other women he was sleeping with or not, or even whether she was OK with him being with them. Like he pointed out also, their kindof long distance relationship seemed to be part of the reason they were able to pull off the no-sex bit.

But beyond Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon, my question is, If you choose to be celibate, and your boyfriend or fiance is not so cool with that, will you permit him to have other women he's physically intimate with? That is if he asks you outright. For the men who do not ask but you later find out after the fact, will you overlook or forgive them?

The Top 12 Reasons Why He Suddenly Quit Calling.

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 03:05 AM PDT


By Dina Z. Colada

I was shopping in one of my favorite consignment stores and found an awesome bikini for my trip to LA. yesterday. Shopping and talking about men with the girls is so good for a woman's soul. It releases oxytocin and we feel so much better about ourselves when it floods our body.


Whenever I'm in the store, we always talk about dating love and relationships, and of course I am always dishing out free dating advice for the women working and shopping there. I can't get enough of teaching and learning about men, women and the challenges we all face when we are connecting. Or disconnecting, which is often the case in our Jetson's style dating world.

My girlfriend in the store had a major complaint. She wanted to know why he suddenly stopped calling. She didn't understand why the men quit calling her. I don't know what my friend's conversations were like, but in more general terms these are some reasons explaining why he suddenly stopped calling.

1. Too many phone calls
Are you talking with a man every night before you have even met? It is showing him that you have too much time to focus on him. Do not talk on the phone every night unless that is in your agreement and you are exclusive
2. The phone calls were too long
If you are talking for an hour at a time this is much too long. You can keep things short and sweet and he will want more
3. You always pick up the phone if he calls
Even if you are washing dishes and your hands are covered with water, you rush to the towel dry off your hands and talk to him immediately. If you are in the middle of something, if he wants to talk with you he will leave a message asking you to call him back. Don't let him think he's got you on a string, because he doesn't.
4. You initiate contact with him
Let him be the one to call you first. It doesn't have to be every time, but men like to be the pursuers. If he says he will get in touch with you, the ball is in his court, give him the chance to throw it back to you.
5. You weren't relaxed
If you kept washing dishes or are sending emails at the same time. You are not being present in the conversation. Take a few minutes to talk with him without distraction.
6. The conversation is focused on him
If there is a moment of silence, do you always fill it up with a question about him? Give him some space to ask something about you or tell you a story.
7. He is talking with several women
You might not be the only women in his world. More than likely he has a couple on the phone this week.
8. He is interested in someone else
It's easier for men to not call you to tell you that he found someone. They just quit calling, he doesn't want to be the bad guy or drop the bomb.
9. No mystery
You are giving him all the details of your work schedule and your cat. This isn't too romantic or mysterious.
10. Talking about old relationships
Hashing out the details of your yucky divorce or your ex-boyfriend crashing his car into your porch is something that can be left for a later day.
11. Complaining
Men want to be with someone positive who isn't complaining about everything. Nuff said.
12. Being negative
If you see the glass as half empty, you can shift your attitude. If you start to say something negative, STOP yourself. It might be trick at first, but it will really help you in your love life.

These are several of the reasons why he suddenly stopped calling me and they are the same reasons he stopped calling you

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Dina Z Colada offers free advice on dating, love, and relationships at EPIC DATING

Dr Sid - Love Mine [Music Video Romance]

Posted: 12 Jul 2013 02:55 PM PDT


Dr SID's single "Love Mine" is off the album SIDUCTION which is produced by Don Jazzy for Mavin Records. This official video was shot on location in London and Directed by Mr. Moe Musa. I love the song, slow and ballady but also with some uptempo beats, and the love story in the video is sweet.
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