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Sunday, October 20, 2013

Romance Meets Life

Romance Meets Life

I Made Myself a Promise That When Violence Comes Home I Would Take a Walk, And I Did

Posted: 20 Oct 2013 10:05 AM PDT


Wow...I read this story and I can totally relate except the suicide part. Congratulations you didn't marry him cos unlike you I married mine only at the time he seemed so genuine & committed or so I thought. 13 years after marriage, I decided to take charge of my own life and protect our lovely kids from being raised in an abusive home.


You're right, he is handsome, very smart, intelligent and very likeable. I was quiet about the things he did never discussed his behaviour with anyone but God..believe me.Prayer revealed so many things to me that I was in denial of for a long while until he crossed the line by putting my life at risk.

Many times during the 13years I considered leaving him, but I kept telling myself he could change. One thing that kept me through was the word of God and mostly great teachings by Joyce Meyer (that's a realistic preacher!) I realised soon enough I was not responsible for his actions. I could handle him.

Everyone thought we were the most perfect couple but they had no idea mostly because even before I got married I knew my happiness never depended on my husband, I made myself a promise other than my vows that when violence comes home...I would take a walk & I did without notice.

I love him but love myself more and my children even more. No dad is better than a bad dad. No child should grow up in an abusive relationship, it keeps the cycle going. His mum controls his life, He is controlling& manipulative (just like his mum-this I later found out), a compulsive liar, adulterous and violent.

Its been a year since I left him, he's been busy lying and saying ridiculous things about me which are not true which I have also completely ignored.He doesn't know where we live and has not even tried to contact us which is a big relief for me. Too bad some people believe his stories (esp his immediate family), good thing is the ones that know him,know the truth.

His family...well let me just quote ''if you don't have anything good to say about people, say nothing). I actually thought they were genuine people until things started happening. He attempted turning my own family against me as well but didn't succeed. One thing I know is that guys like these really need psychological help and then spiritual deliverance.

Its kind of sad to see such smart, good looking, intelligent life waste away because no one survives on lies. Sister's you are not your husband's parents, you didn't raise, didn't know the foundation his life and should not let yourself be intimidated by false doctrine. Abusive husbands know how to remind you to be submissive! Don't be fooled. If you're xtian do your own research..God hates divorce but endorses it on grounds of unrepentant adultery and violence.

Life is for the living, you're not doing your children any good by allowing them witness their mum being abused. Make your own decision, do not ignore the red flags. Best advice don't always come from your loved ones or your church, you know your situation better than anyone, weigh your options and make a decision you're certain you will not regret. I personally, would love to educate a lot of women especially in abusive relationships.

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Myne's note - Someone submitted this comment on the previous post about her experience of domestic violence. I'll like the Anonymous, if you're reading, to contact me at myne@mynewhitman.com so we can work out ways for her to share more. Thanks.

Ime Bishop Umoh Weds Idara Savior - Photos From Church Wedding and Traditional Marriage

Posted: 20 Oct 2013 08:15 AM PDT


Nollywood actor Ime Bishop Umoh, pictured above, and his wife, Idara Saviour, celebrated their traditional and white wedding this weekend in Uyo Akwa Ibom State. Below are some pictures, you can read their love story, HERE. Congratulations to the couple!

All of Nollywood Turn Up For the Golden Icons Academy Movie Awards in Houston

Posted: 20 Oct 2013 01:00 AM PDT

Alex Ekubo and Nsa Ntuk
Hosted by Ramsey Nouah, the Golden Icons Academy Movie Awards held in Houston last night and attracted all of Nollywood's brightest, who trooped out en masse to celebrate their nominated colleagues and their industry. Alex Ekubo and Uduak Oguamanam won awards for Best Supporting Actor and Best Original Screenplay respectively. Congrats to them.

Couple Love - Uche Jombo and Kenny Rodriguez in Houston, USA

Posted: 20 Oct 2013 12:02 AM PDT


Uche Jombo, who has talked in the past [HERE] about how she maintains her marriage by spending a large chunk of her year with her husband, Kenny Rodriguez, in the United States is currently doing just that. The actress was photographed in Houston arriving for the GIAMA Awards which took place this Saturday. He sure looks happy to be with her :)
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