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Monday, September 9, 2013

Romance Meets Life

Romance Meets Life

George Zimmerman Detained by Police After He Pulls a Gun on His Estranged Wife and her Father

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 09:09 PM PDT


George Zimmerman was acquitted of murdering unarmed teen Trayvon Martin last month, but his woes seem to be just starting. In a movie I watched recently, a character says, "When you do something wrong, even though you may get away from the law, you keep paying". That seems to be the case with Zimmerman.


Just four days ago, his wife, Shellie Zimmerman, had filed for divorce after almost 7 years of marriage.

In an interview with ABC News shown Friday, Shellie Zimmerman called her husband of six years "selfish" and said he believes he's "invincible" after being found not guilty in the racially charged Trayvon Martin case. 'I think I'm realizing that I have been married to a person for almost seven years, and I don't think that I ever really knew him at all.'

To compound his issues, George Zimmerman then went into a rage yesterday at his former father-in-law's house, punching him in the face and pulling a gun on his estranged wife, Shellie Zimmerman, as well as a knife. She called 911 screaming, "I'm really, really scared, I don't know what he's capable of."

According to NY Daily News,

Shellie Zimmerman, 26, told a police dispatcher that her husband flew into a rage just after 2 p.m. and punched her father, Colin Morgan, in the nose. She said that after smashing her iPad, he began waving a gun, threatening, "one step closer and he'd shoot us."

Lake Mary Police Chief Steve Bracknell said the Stand-Your-Ground poster boy was taken into custody and questioned, but was expected to be released without being charged.

Bracknell said Shellie Zimmerman and her father, Colin Morgan, refused to press charges.

"We have no victim, no crime," Bracknell told the Orlando Sentinel.

It was not immediately clear what sent tempers flying.

Atala and I Featured on MSN Living - Real Husbands: What I Love About My Wife

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 07:02 PM PDT


Some of you may remember this post, 15 Things I Love About My Nigerian Wife, it is still one of the most appreciated posts on RML. I was contacted by an MSN writer who saw and loved the post and she wanted to connect to Atala and feature him, [and us] on a slideshow she was preparing to acknowledge husbands who appreciate their wives. I tabled it to Atala and he said Yes! LOL...

Check out the slideshow and us at #3 at MSN Living.

Atala - or as he wants to be known, Tola - says what he appreciates most about me is my smarts and sense of adventure :)

"I like how smart Myne is; I always feel I can count on her great suggestions when I'm thinking through a difficult issue. I love that because she's more adventurous than I am, I get to see and do things that I otherwise would not have done."

I'm so loving him and appreciating his PDA, and I want to pay this forward. I want to give other husbands and wives the opportunity to show and feel their appreciation.

Wife Appreciation Day is on Sept. 22, and I'd love to receive stories from real husbands who want to share with RML what they love most about their wives.

It can be one sentence, a paragrah, or an essay. Photos are not compulsory but will be real awesome. My married and coupled up male readers, I see you guys, and for the wives who know their husbands read this blog, it's time to table it before them. I look forward to reading your mails. Thanks

Tamar Braxton in Ebony Magazine, Talks About her Infertility, Abusive Relationships and Self Esteem

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 07:01 PM PDT


Tamar Braxton and her new baby, Logan, are on the cover of the latest issue of Ebony Magazine where she talks about her painful struggle with infertility before getting pregnant and how she got her post-pregnancy body right. She also discusses past abusive relationships and how they have affected her self esteem, as well as having vitiligo. Here are some excerpts from the cover story.

On how she dealt with pregnancy cravings and got her pre-pregnancy body back

"He's like, 'Nope. Don't do it. You're gonna be mad." Vince chimes in, "Even before the pregnancy, she was very conscious about her weight, so I'm just helping her to be a better person."

On surviving two past abusive relationships-including one where she was yanked out of her apartment by her hair.

I almost had to tell my story to each individual and then I decided that's not what I'm going to do. I can't make anybody believe, I can't change anybody's mind about anything. (The abuse,) it happened. I'm not all the way comfortable with sharing a lot of what happened to me (yet), but what I said was true. When I'm ready to talk about my abusive past I will, I'm sorry that I'm not. But if it wasn't for (God), I wouldn't be here."

On how her abusive relationships affected her self esteem

"I haven't always been vocal about my feelings, especially in a relationship. Now, I make sure that I'm very vocal about my feelings, everybody knows how I feel. Sometimes it's over the top and most of the time it's 'Team Too-Much,'" she laughs, "But I have to do a lot. (I was) a shy person who had self-esteem issues trying to figure it out — now, I've gotten over my hangovers.

You say, I'm comfortable and confident, it took a long time to get there. Maybe like a year or so before Braxton Family Values, I wasn't that person. I was faking it til I make it, pretty much…

"I didn't feel like I was beautiful. I didn't feel like I deserved things. I didn't feel like I could stand in a room and speak or even sing and have people who wanted to listen."

On having the skin disease Vitiligo, and rumors of her bleaching

Anybody with skin issues knows that that's a very sensitive subject. And that's why I've never shared that I have Vitiligo, because I do. I've always had it, since I was a young girl. It's not as bad as others because everybody has it differently, but I've certainly had mine diagnosed. That's why I tan. People say, "You bleach your skin!" But I tan just so I can have a better tone on my skin, boo!

It's gotten worse since I've gotten pregnant. If you shake my hand now, to me it's more noticeable. But when you get diagnosed with a skin disorder, it's hard. It does weigh on your self-esteem. It really does. But I'm done defending that. I'm not bleaching my skin and if I was bleaching my skin and I felt like saying so, I would, but for the record, I am not.

On rumors that she's had plastic surgery

"I don't have plastic surgery. I never had plastic surgery. I had a nose procedure done because I had to. I had no cartilage in my nose, I have a piece of cartilage from my ear put into my nose. I had a medical procedure done. I have no plastic in my nose. And when I shared that with the world, now I have Botox, and different kind of fillers. Now I touch my face, which I never touch my face…Everything is real on me."

On why she fell in love with her husband, Vince

"The thing that I love the most about (Vincent) is that he's helped me with accepting what happened to me and helped me realize that that's not my make-up, (being abused) is not who I am, it hasn't hindered who I am, it hasn't stopped my integrity. I really appreciate him more and more everyday."

The Meeting - Behind the Scenes and Interview With Midred Okwo, Rita Dominic and other Actors

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 02:04 PM PDT


Rita Dominic's The Meeting remains one of the best Nollywood movies I've seen and a great romantic comedy for any audience. The producers are preparing to release the DVD version of the movie in the coming months and this promo of behind the scene snippets and interviews with some of the people involved in making the movie is a must watch.




And if you haven't seen it, watch The Meeting below. You can read my full review here.

Viola Davis on Essence Magazine - Talks About Natural Hair and Her Identity as a Black Actress

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 02:14 PM PDT


Viola Davis is beautiful inside and out on the cover of the October edition of Essence Magazine. She debuted her teenie tiny afro on the 2012 Oscar's red carpet [here] and in this cover, she shows how it has grown and inside the magazine, she talks about accepting her natural beauty as it affected her work as a black actress in Hollywood. Excerpts;

I had to defend myself as an artist, but I found myself defending myself as a dark-skinned Black woman in front of people who did not know my life. I took my wig off because I no longer wanted to apologize for who I am.

 My image of myself [as a youth] was in the mouths of young White kids calling me ugly and then going home to a mother who did not fully embrace her own beauty… There's not one woman in America who does not care about her hair. But we give it way too much value. We deprive ourselves of things, we use it to destroy each other, we'll look at a child and judge a mother and her sense of motherhood by the way the child's hair looks.


Via Essence.com

UshBebe and Annette Share Pre-Wedding Photos

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 12:12 PM PDT


Justice Nuagbe, Nigerian Comedian and Radio Presenter for Naija FM in Lagos popularly known as Ushbebe, will be getting married to his long time girlfriend, Annette Osa-Agbontaen, in a traditional marriage in October. The white wedding ceremony will hold on the 23rd of November. Congratulations to the couple!

A Cry For Help? Miley Cyrus Cries as she Goes Nude in 'Wrecking Ball' Music Video

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 10:27 AM PDT


After her hard girl act at the VMAs, see here, Miley Cyrus is going for the soft inside in new video for her single, Wrecking Ball. Shedding tears at the beginning of the video, she sings of being wrecked after charging into a relationship like the tough one. I like the song, and the lyrics, some say the video is more of her provocative, girl-gone-wild side, I think it's quite mature. Or could it be a cry for help?

How To Be The Wife That Your Man Wants by Gerald Rogers

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 09:17 AM PDT


Remember his message to Men, here, on how to be an epic husband? Read and share these tips for women who want to enjoy a great marriage…

Last Sunday, just after my marriage of 16 years ended in divorce, I was up at 1:00am capturing advice I would have given myself if I could go back in time… things I wish I would have known as a husband earlier. I shared my thoughts with my friends on Facebook hoping that maybe out there somewhere, there was one person like me that could benefit from my hard earned lessons and recommit to being the man their wife deserves, before it was too late...


To my surprise, in one week over 71,200 people had 'shared' those lessons, and I received countless private messages thanking me for how it had already transformed their marriage.

… and then I also got messages from women who were feeling stuck, not sure what they could do to bring life back into their marriage, and how they could inspire their man to step up.

One woman sent me this message: "A lot of my friends wanted to know after reading your post, Coming from a man's point of view what would a man want in a marriage?"

I still don't pretend to be an expert on relationships. I have no intention of being known as one. I am just a normal guy. A guy that screws up sometimes, and is trying to learn as I go, to be a little wiser next time… and a guy who is just trying to listen to the lessons that life provides. What I share is just my opinion and my perspective in being a man, nothing more. My only intention is to serve.

I share my thoughts here only because I feel it needs to be shared, and because I hope that it may bring light to some woman out there who is looking for hope and direction in her relationship right now.

Here's the deal. Marriage is a 2-way covenant. A partnership where both husband AND wife hold EQUAL accountability in making it work, and who both need to commit fully to make it THRIVE…. YOU ARE A TEAM. That team works best when both are whole and strong, and share a vision of what you want to create.

The problem is men are often ignorant as to the real needs of their wife, and MOST WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT THEIR MAN WANTS, and how to be that WOMAN that will INSPIRE THEIR MAN TO RISE and be that KING that she deserves.

This is what that the TRUE MAN wants from his lady…

1) He wants you to LOVE YOURSELF FULLY FIRST… Fall in love with who you are and treat yourself with kindness and respect. Stop being so hard on yourself. You are amazing, just the way you are. When you realize this you are more confident, and NOTHING is SEXIER to a man than a woman who owns her worth, her brilliance, her beauty. The more you love yourself, the more love you will have to give.

2) FILL YOURSELF UP… Stop looking to your man to be the one to 'make' you happy. That's your job, not his. When you are expecting that from him, it drains him, but when you take accountability and FILL YOURSELF with love and joy, you are like a POWERPLANT with ENERGY and LOVE and PASSION that pours into his life. HE WANTS you to be happy, he just doesn't want to be blamed when you're not. Find what makes you happy.

3) LOVE YOUR BODY… Look in the mirror and see how amazing and gorgeous you really are. What a gift that body is. Love every inch… just as it is right now! A woman who loves her body takes care of it. She loves to eat well, and she loves to exercise, not to impress anyone else, but because SHE DESERVES TO BE HEALTHY. You take care of that which you love.

Stop being so critical about your body. You aren't supposed to look like that model on the cover of the magazine… SHE'S FAKE. She's a photoshopped illusion created by a marketing firm with the purpose of making you feel inadequate about yourself. That's the only way you'll buy their stuff. Don't buy into their lie. Stop comparing yourself with others, your only job is to be the most BEAUTIFUL YOU. Take good care of yourself, and your man will be irresistibly attracted to you.

4) GIVE 100% and EXPECT NOTHING in return. If you want a happy marriage you must be willing to PLAY FULL OUT to create it, regardless of where he is at. Take full accountability for your part. UNMET EXPECTATIONS are the biggest source of unhappiness in marriage, so stop expecting him to be anything but him. When you give without expectation, just watch and see how much is returned.

5) BE GRATEFUL FOR WHO HE IS RIGHT NOW… Focus on what you love about him as he is, and try to overlook the rest. When you do this not only does it make you happier, but you will begin to notice more and more of what you love. You will always find what you are looking for. When you see and acknowledge the greatness in him, it will call forth that part of him who wants to be your king and knight in shining armor.

6) FORGIVE HIM… Over and over again. Face it, he's made some stupid mistakes. A lot of them. You know that and he does too. Carrying the weight of those mistakes into the future though, not only will keep you from trusting him, but it will keep him from feeling safe to be fully open with you. So wherever you have that secret closet inside your mind where you are storing all those mistakes from all those years, you know, the one you go to whenever he messes up again and keep all the evidence and validation of why you should leave… yeah, that one. Destroy it. Burn the evidence and be free once and for all. Learn from the past and LET IT GO. He deserves to be free from the past and so do you. It's God's job to judge him, not yours. The faster you forgive the more fully love will flow.

7) NEVER CRITICISE HIM… Compliment him on what he does right, rather than tear him down for what he does wrong. He WANTS TO PLEASE you, when he does something you appreciate let him know. Stroke him on the back of his neck, and tell him how much you appreciate his efforts and he will be eager to do more. If you criticize him, it will only shut him down and make him hide from you and stop trying. (Seriously, men are so easy to train. Positive Reinforcement. Us guys, we're kinda' like seals at sea world… give em' a treat after they do something you want and they'll keep doing it…. Don't tell your husband I told you this.)

8 ) YOU DON'T OWN HIM. He is free and was meant to be. If you try to control him, put a leash on him, or cage him, it will take away the very thing that makes him a man- that raw masculine sense of control and independence. The more you try to force him or restrict him, the more he will yearn to escape. The more inviting you make yourself, the more you let him be free, the more he will want to stay.

9) GIVE HIM MAN TIME… just like you, he needs time for himself to fill himself up. The man hungers for adventure, and for challenge and for time to brood in his Man cave. You may not understand why he loves to watch sports or violent movies about war, and superheroes, and spies. You don't have to understand, just let him have that space to be.

10) GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT and choose to CREATE IT… Stop waiting for him to give you what you want, take responsibility for creating it yourself. - ie. If you want to date more, create it… make it easy for him. Give him a list of 10 ideas of what you like to do together on dates, and schedule a night each week for him to take you out, and then gently remind him if needed...

11) SPEAK CLEARLY and OPENLY… He's NOT a mind-reader. No matter how long you've lived together, he still won't always know what you want. When you are upset, he probably has no idea why. You could be furious with him and he'll have NO IDEA what he did or said to make you upset. The more clearly you communicate what you want, the more he can give it to you.

12) DON'T ASSUME ANYTHING… don't jump to conclusions. As intuitive as you are, you don't always know what he is thinking or feeling. Your judgements are often filtered through your own limiting beliefs. Give him the benefit of the doubt, and choose to believe the best. 'seek first to understand, and then to be understood.'

13) RESPECT HIM. While a woman yearns to be deeply understood and cherished, the man's primary need is to be respected. When you have a problem, his first impulse is to FIX IT. This is how he feels important. While criticism and control are his "anti-love" languages and will cause him to feel dis-respected and to shut down, meaningful acknowledgement will make him feel respected and bring him to life and cause him to stand a little taller and be a little better.

14) ENCOURAGE HIM TO LIVE HIS PURPOSE… The man is most alive when he is on a quest for something he feels meaningful. It may take him time to discover what that purpose is, but encourage him along the way, and when he finds it, be his greatest cheerleader.

15) Ok. Here we go… you knew this was coming… ABOUT SEX… for men in a relationship this is not just a desire, it is a core need. It is one of the keys that anchors his soul to yours. Frequent, meaningful Sex is what connects his heart to you and makes him feel at one. Open yourself fully to experience that passionate and connected love, and he will give himself to you. Shut him off, withhold from him, or reject him and it will emasculate him and sever the most important connection to you in his world.

Men and Women seem to be wired opposite with sex. While the woman wants emotional connection first to fully open herself up in physical intimacy, the man wants physical connection first to open up emotionally. This is a good recipe for sexual frustration. I call this, God's little birth control plan.

This doesn't mean you give up your needs or sacrifice your desires. Just the opposite. Let him know what turns you on (even if it's little things like when he does the dishes for you, or when he sits down and just rubs your feet as he listens to you share about your day.) Talk openly about what both of you want with intimacy and work together to create it.

16) in SEX, FOCUS ON YOUR FULFILLMENT first. Guys are pretty simple. Their mechanism is easy to operate and can always be turned on. You on the other hand, have a complex and intricate instrument. Focus on how you are fulfilled and your man will be turned on when he feels he is pleasing you. Create that space where it is safe for in your marriage to be fully open and vulnerable, and even to let the dark side of your passion out. Keep it interesting and exciting, and most of all fun. Through that the deep sacred space that connects you will continue to grow deeper and stronger.

17) LEARN THE UNIQUE COMBINATION to you Man's heart. Figure out the love languages that he uses to receive and give love. And then, commit daily fill him with that love. The more you give, the more you will receive.

18) FOCUS ON THE LONG-TERM VISION and then TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. Love is like a garden that requires constant watering and constant weeding. You may have let a lot of weeds grow in your garden over time, but stay focused on daily working towards what you want, and inevitably, before long you will have the sweet fruit you have been wanting. You deserve that love, and so does he.

19) NURTURE YOUR LOVE. And renew that commitment to love daily. Keep your heart open to him, and let him own it.

20) And don't forget to SMILE. It looks good on you.

… and of course continue to build your connection with God. He'll strengthen you on the journey, fill you with love, and help you with the rest.

You are the QUEEN and your husband is YOUR KING. The more you see and treat each other as the nobility you truly are, the richer your relationship will become and the happier your castle will be.

As a woman, you are amazing. Us men, stand in awe of your capacity to give yourself to your family and to the world. You are so intuitive, sensitive, brilliant, strong and kind. Without you, the man's world is not complete. Thanks for being patient with us.

My heart hurts, knowing how much pain so many experience in their marriage. I know how it feels. So many of us live unconscious to these simple principles. I don't understand why we were never taught them in school, and why we don't live them more fully as we learn them. It's sad that many of us don't take the time to discover and live them until the pain is too great…

As long as you are still married though, it's not too late. It may take time, and it may take patience, and it WILL take you making a decision to try a little harder. But there is always hope for you.

And if you have already found yourself in divorce, take these lessons and learn them for next time, and hold tight to the hope that your Prince is out there searching for you. Be the type of person you want to attract, and in time, he will find you.

I know that out there, are young brides wondering what they got into, and women who have been married a long time wondering how they can get out.

All of them, deep down, want the same thing. They want a marriage that is whole and fulfilling where they feel cherished by someone who they can share their life with… many of them, though don't know how to create that.

If you find lessons here that can serve those other women you know who deserve a beautiful and fulfilling marriage, then PLEASE SHARE this with them. Hopefully for some it will give them new insights, clearer direction, and wake them up to new possibilities and hope that they may have lost.

WOMEN- THIS IS YOUR INVITATION to rise in your beauty and glory. To be the goddess of your home and the queen of your man's heart.

You are RADIANT. Keep on shining… the future is more beautiful than you can imagine...

Kendra Spears becomes Princess Salwa - Changing Your Religion and Your Name After Marriage

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 09:19 AM PDT


If you watched the Disney princesses as a young girl, or ever crushed on British prince William or Harry, you may have dreamed of one day becoming a princess. And for Kendra Spears, an American from Seattle, she did get her prince.

Kendra married Prince Rahim Aga Khan, the eldest son of the Imam of Shia Ismaili Muslims, at a traditional Muslim wedding in Switzerland. Before the wedding, the bride converted to Islam and changed her name, she is now to be known as Princess Salwa Aga Khan. So, in exchange of being a princess - hopefully this also means being with the man she loves - she is changing everything about her including all her names and also her religion.

The question is, will you change your name [first name, not surname] AND convert to another religion for love and marriage? I know some people were against this when I blogged about Sound Sultan and his wife Farida, who was Chichi before the marriage, see here.

Vote blow and let's discuss in the comments section.

All the Actors in Half of a Yellow Sun Movie at the Toronto International Film Festival Premiere

Posted: 09 Sep 2013 07:12 AM PDT


The Half of a Yellow Sun movie premiered yesterday at the Toronto International Film Festival and has been getting some publicity and favorable reviews, [see first photos of Chimamanda, Genevieve and a review here]. The financiers of the movie led by Yewande Sadiku and Muhktar Bakare were also present, as well as director Biyi Bandele and producer Andrea Calderwood. See the entire contingent present at the movie premiere below...

(L-R) Actors John Boyega, Onyeka Onwenu, Chiwetel Ejiofor, Thandie Newton, Anika Noni Rose, Genevieve Nnaji, director Biyi Bandele, producer Andrea Calderwood, novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, actor Wale Ojo, Helen Ogunbiyi, Labi Ogunbiyi, guest and executive producer Yewande Sadiku

Monday Man Candy - Dr Sid in a Scottish Kilt For a Friend's Wedding

Posted: 08 Sep 2013 11:25 PM PDT


If this were the cover art of a movie, Dr Sid himself titled it best when he captioned this picture he shared on Instagram, "A Scottish Wedding, a Naija Grooms Man and a Kilt". Dr Sid was among the groomsmen at his friends wedding and along with the Scottish groom, they all wore the kilt with their suits.


Now, scores of romance novels set in the Scottish Highlands, and my years in Edinburgh have certainly left me with an admiration of men in Kilts. The question remains, are they wearing anything underneath? If you ask me, na who I go ask? Ask Dr. Sid :)
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