Romance Meets Life

Beyonce's First Boyfriend Regrets Losing Her Due to his Cheating
The Sexiest Parts of the Body Now Revealed by Scientists - The Feet is Least Favorite
Unconditional Love - Limbless Nick Vujicic and his Wife and Baby Son Kiyoshi
Eniola Badmus Celebrates her Birthday with Living Fountain Orpahanage in Lagos
Ten Lies The Church Tells Women
Viral Video - This Girl is on Fire From Twerking Gone Wrong
Dear Myne - Our Different Religious Beliefs Are Almost Causing Us to Split Up
A Bride and Groom-To-Be Get Creative with Horror-Themed Engagement Photoshoot
Couple Love - Toke Makinwa and Fiance Maje Ayida at Alex Okosi's Birthday Party
Covers - Mo Abudu on TW Magazine
Magazine Covers - Agbani Darego on the Iconic Edition of Genevieve
Quote of the Day - Positive Thoughts Attract a Positive Life

Beyonce's First Boyfriend Regrets Losing Her Due to his Cheating

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 04:09 PM PDT

Lyndell Locke was Beyonce's close friend while she was a teenager, boyfriend if you believe him, but their relationship was cut short by his infidelity. Most people have memories of the one that got away. You remember them intermitently, smile or frown depending on where you are in your life, and then you shake your head and move on.

However, when the one that got away from you is an international celebrity and a darling of the press, you're kind of stuck. And when you actually caused the breakup of your relationship, it's only worse. But no matter how bad you feel, how good your ex is doing, one should learn to move on, and that's what we think Beyonce's ex,Lyndell Locke, should do.

Check out his interview with the Sun UK below...

On His Relationship With Bey:
Beyonce was the love of my life and I was hers, so losing her is still my biggest regret. She would say to me all the time, 'I'm afraid to ever live my life without you Lyndall, I want you to be mine for ever.'
I'll be honest — it was me that messed everything up and lost her for ever to Jay Z, but I deserved it.
Who cheats on a woman as beautiful as Beyonce? Well, I am that man and it's something that'll always haunt me.
On Meeting Beyonce When She Was 11-Years-Old & He Was 13:
From the first time I saw Beyonce I couldn't take my eyes off of her. She looked like an angel, the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen. We'd hang out after school and almost every night we'd fall asleep talking to each other on the phone.
On Beyonce Being An Outcast At School:
She was just so shy, she was a bit of an outcast at school and didn't even sing in the choir. For two years I didn't know she could sing. We spent hours watching movies together and playing Connect 4.
Some of our most fun times was when I watched Beyonce, her sister Solange and Kelly performing dance routines. So while I had no idea how good her voice was back then, I certainly knew she could move.
On Sharing Their First Kiss Together:
It was just after Beyonce's 15th birthday. I surprised her with Brian McKnight concert tickets and it happened that night. I had got popcorn and as we were sitting in our seats I dropped it. As we both went down to grab it we bumped heads, and locked into our first kiss.
We both just looked at each other realizing there was this incredible spark of fireworks between us. It was that fairytale kiss you only hear about in the movies. That was the first feeling of true love between me and Beyonce. Still, to this day, I've never had another kiss as passionate as that one.
On Cheating On Bey Five Times:
The bigger star she became, the more I didn't think I was good enough. One night, when she was out of town, I went to a bar with friends and ended up sleeping with another woman. Over the course of a few years I cheated on her about five times, but I never told her until after we broke up.
She was such a great girl who cared about me deeply, she even wrote her hit Dangerously in Love while we were together. That's how in love we were back then. Initially my intention was to take a break from our relationship so I could go to culinary school and make a name for myself. But when I headed to Austin to do the course she quickly moved on with her own life.
On Beyonce Dating Jay Z:
Once she began dating Jay Z, I knew we were doomed and I could never win her back. But I know that no matter what, she will always love me. I will always wonder 'What if?' and, given all we shared, I'm sure a part of her must feel the same way

Via GlobalGrind

The Sexiest Parts of the Body Now Revealed by Scientists - The Feet is Least Favorite

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 01:02 PM PDT

The mind, or the brain, is the biggest erogenous zone. I heard this sometime ago, and found it to be true for me. Some scientists, not satisfied with songs or lines in books, decided to research this saying in detail, in particular, how does the brain organise erogenous zones?

These neuro scientists from two British universities and one in South Africa, wanted to know, "Why is a nuzzled neck sexy when few would be turned on by a nuzzled nose? And why do men seem to have fewer erogenous zones than women?"

So they asked 800 people, mostly from Britain and sub-Saharan Africa, to rate about 40 body parts between 1 - 10 on which gave them the most pleasure when touched. Not when they looked at it, but when touched.

According to the Guardian UK, some of the results were as follows;

Three quarters gave their feet the lowest, zero rating – alongside knee caps – which might disappoint those who have invested time and energy in developing their foot massage or toe-sucking techniques.

The fact that people consistently placed feet so low on their rankings of sensitive areas seems to completely undermine previous explanations for the distribution of our erogenous zones, which have suggested that the sensors in our brain that deal with the feet were right next to the sensors in charge of our genitalia.

Another surprise was the consistency of responses. "A lot of people assume that women's bodies are just full of erogenous zones and that men have only one, the obvious one," said Professor Oliver Turnbull of Bangor University's School of Psychology, who led the study and worked alongside scientists from the University of the Witwatersrand in Johannesburg.

"But this is clearly not the case," said Turnbull. "It's pretty equal, with just perhaps a modest advantage to women – but certainly nothing like the way the sex differences have been so hugely exaggerated."

The scientists were also surprised to see that there were "remarkable levels of correlation" between the ratings for all the people who responded, no matter their age, gender, sexual orientation, nationality or race. Men and women listed the 41 body parts they were asked to rate in remarkably similar order. The obvious bits of genitalia were at the top of the rankings, as were lips, ears and inner thighs, followed closely by shoulder blades.

There were a few major differences between the sexes – the back of the leg was barely acknowledged by women, for instance, while men rated it as important as their ears. Hands were also more erotic for men than for women, researchers found.

"We have discovered from this that we all share the same erogenous zones in at least two very different continents, whether we are a white, middle-aged, middle-class woman sitting in a London office or a gay man living in a village in Africa. It suggests it is hardwired, built in, not based on cultural or life experience," said Turnbull.

The Daily Mail broke the results down even further as shown in the picture above, do you agree?

Unconditional Love - Limbless Nick Vujicic and his Wife and Baby Son Kiyoshi

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 12:02 PM PDT

In February 2012, limbless evangelist and motivational speaker Nick Vujicic got married to his wife Kanae Miyahara, and one year later, he announced the birth of his son, Kiyoshi Vujicic on his Facebook page, writing, "Dream come true. Holding my Baby Boy Kiyoshi. Amazing grace and gift from God. Love you all so much. Thank you for your showers of prayer."

Indeed, love is real, and is stronger than we know. Hold on to your love and to God.

Eniola Badmus Celebrates her Birthday with Living Fountain Orpahanage in Lagos

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 12:01 PM PDT

Eniola Badmus marked another year in her life a few days ago, 6th of September, with well wishes from friends and fans, including a club party. Yesterday, she capped it all up with a visit to Living Fountain Orphanage where she donated gift items to the children. That's such a generous move on her part, and RML wishes her more blessings!

Ten Lies The Church Tells Women

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 12:01 PM PDT

FOR CENTURIES, A PATRIARCHAL SYSTEM OF CONTROL HAS KEPT WOMEN IN SPIRITUAL CAPTIVITY THROUGH DISTORTION OF THE SCRIPTURES. IT'S TIME TO DEBUNK THE MYTHS.

By J. Lee Grady

We live in the 21st century, but if we're honest we have to admit that in some ways the church is still in the Dark Ages--especially when we look at the way we treat women.

LIE #1. GOD'S ULTIMATE PLAN FOR WOMEN IS THAT THEY SERVE THEIR HUSBANDS.
How sad that so many Christian men view women from a selfish perspective. This view is often promoted by misreading the account of Eve's creation in Genesis 2:18-25, in which Adam is provided a "helpmate." The Hebrew word used here often is translated "companion," denoting intimacy and partnership. But through the centuries it has been used to imply that Eve was some type of domestic appendage.

men have assumed that God gave Eve to fulfill Adam's intimate needs as well as to serve as his cook, laundress and maid. But the Genesis account does not say this.

After Eve's creation, God did not tell her: "You are Adam's helper; I command you to serve him well." She was not created for servitude; she was fashioned to be a co-laborer with Adam so that they might rule together over creation as God commissioned them to do (see Gen. 1:28).

LIE #2. WOMEN CAN'T BE FULFILLED OR SPIRITUALLY EFFECTIVE WITHOUT A HUSBAND.
From the time she was released from a German death camp in 1944 until her death in 1983, Corrie Ten Boom taught the world about a Savior who could forgive the cruelest Nazi. Yet she never married. Did the fact that she did not have a husband make her less "complete"? Some Christians would say yes.

We have spent so much energy defending the concept of the biblical family that we are guilty of idolizing it. We've preached that a woman's primary responsibility is to find a godly husband, have lots of babies and stay home to raise them for Christ.

But marital status is not a qualifier for ministry. The Bible does not even state whether certain key followers of Jesus, such as the 12 disciples, were married or not.

The highest calling of all believers--married or unmarried--is to develop a relationship with Jesus. Any other earthly relationship is secondary, and Christ Himself warned us never to allow people we love to become idols that distract us from Him.

LIE #3. WOMEN SHOULDN'T WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME.
Many evangelical churches have preached that women who work outside the home are breaking a scriptural commandment, but this conclusion can be reached only by distorting the biblical record. The woman described in Proverbs 31 is often used to bolster a traditional view of the June Cleaver-style matron who spends her day baking casseroles while her husband is at the office. But a careful reading reveals that the Proverbs 31 woman, in her ancient Middle Eastern context, functioned as a real estate agent and ran a textile business.

Titus 2:5 instructs women to "take care of their homes" (New Living Translation). But most scholars would agree that this passage simply exhorts married women not to forsake their children.

It is true that, because of ambition or materialism, some Christian women neglect their children even though the Holy Spirit has urged them to put their career objectives on hold. But rather than placing a legalistic burden on women by telling them that having a career is ungodly, we should tell both men and women to submit their career plans to the Holy Spirit's direction.

LIE #4. WOMEN MUST OBEDIENTLY SUBMIT TO THEIR HUSBANDS IN ALL SITUATIONS.
If a christian woman is constantly beaten up by her husband and decides to stay, the question is; "If your husband kills you, it will be to the glory of God."
this irresponsible conclusion because of a distorted view of "male headship." We often portray marriage as a hierarchy, with husbands on the throne and wives at the footstool, and we use Scripture to justify this view: "Wives...submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord" (Eph. 5:22).

We assume this verse means women have no say in family matters or that their opinion is second-rate. In extreme cases, women have been told to submit to abuse in order to honor male headship. But this is not a Christian view.

Paul also told the Ephesians, "submit to one another" (5:21, emphasis added). I have heard teachings by male clergy on the subject of male headship, but I've never heard a pastor encourage men to submit to their wives! Yet in a loving marriage, a man and woman will defer to one another as they make decisions.

LIE #5. A MAN NEEDS TO "COVER" A WOMAN IN HER MINISTRY ACTIVITIES.
This idea came from a distorted interpretation of the apostle Paul's words in 1 Corinthians 11:3, "the head of woman is man" (NKJV). People have used these words to bolster the idea that women are subservient to men or that they cannot approach God without a male authority figure in their lives.

Paul's teaching in 1 Corinthians 11 about head coverings is a difficult passage, and Bible scholars don't agree on its meaning. However, most teach that Paul is addressing specific cultural concerns in first-century Corinth and that he is calling for propriety and order in a society where immorality and paganism had blurred gender distinctions.

Paul was not placing men in a position of generic rulership over women. Because there is "no male or female in Christ" (see Gal. 3:28), women can pray, worship, study the Bible or minister without a man present. How silly to think that a man, because of his gender, could add credibility to prayer or Spirit-empowered ministry! To believe this would be to trust in the flesh.

LIE #6. A WOMAN SHOULD VIEW HER HUSBAND AS THE "PRIEST OF THE HOME."
Search your concordance. Scripture never describes men as "priests of the home." This man-made concept was popularized in evangelical churches in the last century. We have one priest, Jesus Christ, whose blood atoned for our sins. It is a mockery of the gospel to suggest that any human being needs an additional priest apart from the Son of God.

The Bible says all believers are priests (see 1 Pet. 2:9, Rev. 1:6); there is no gender restriction. Husbands function as priests when they pray for their families or when they minister the Word of God to them, and wives also function in this role. Christian men need to stop being defensive and recognize that God has called us to function in unity with our wives. We need to listen to their counsel, consider their opinions, and pray together for the mind of the Lord rather than putting our foot down and shouting, "I am the leader of this family, and what I say goes!"

LIE #7. WOMEN ARE NOT EQUIPPED TO ASSUME LEADERSHIP ROLES.
The most common mistake we make in biblical interpretation occurs when we take one isolated verse and build a doctrine around it--even if the verse seems to contradict other passages. This is often what we do with 1 Tim. 2:12, "I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man" (NASB).

Most theologians believe that this passage was addressing an isolated situation in Ephesus. They came to this conclusion after studying the myriad of references in the Bible to women in spiritual authority. The Old Testament records that Deborah was a judge over Israel--and God blessed her leadership in battle (see Judg. 4-5). Other women who held authority over men include Miriam, Huldah and Noadiah.

Jesus issued His first gospel commission to women (see Matt. 28:1-10), and both men and women were empowered to preach on the day of Pentecost (Acts 2:1-4). Priscilla, Chloe and Phoebe were leaders in the early church, and one woman, Junia, is called an apostle by Paul (Rom. 16:7).

The promise of the prophet Joel was that "sons and daughters" would prophesy after the Holy Spirit was given to the church (Joel 2:28, emphasis added). Yet we have taken one misunderstood verse from Paul's writings and used it to negate hundreds of other passages that support the full release of women into ministry.

LIE #8: WOMEN MUST NOT TEACH OR PREACH TO MEN IN A CHURCH SETTING.
Since 1 Timothy 2:12 obviously contradicts the overall biblical endorsement of women in authority, how are we to understand it? What is Paul actually saying in this passage?
What Paul was most likely saying to the Ephesians was this: "I do not allow a woman to teach these cultic heresies, nor do I allow them to usurp authority from men by performing pagan rituals." He was not saying, as some Christians have assumed, "I do not allow godly Christian women to teach the Bible." In his day, Paul would have been thrilled to have had more skilled women who could teach the truth!

LIE #9. WOMEN ARE MORE EASILY DECEIVED THAN MEN.
who was deceived, but the woman being quite deceived, fell into transgression" (NLT). Some have suggested that because Eve was tricked by the devil, women have a stronger propensity toward deception. Others have gone so far as to insist that women are to blame for all the evil in the world and are therefore under a greater curse than men. The Bible clearly states that Adam and Eve were both held guilty by God for their disobedience, and they were both punished. Paul was not teaching that women are more prone to deception. He was explaining that what Eve did was not right, and that the Christian view of the creation was that Adam and Eve sinned when they listened to the serpent.

Women are certainly capable of spreading deception because they have a fallen nature as men do, but there is no evidence that they have greater gullibility. That view is rooted in demeaning stereotypes and prejudice.

LIE #10: WOMEN WHO EXHIBIT STRONG LEADERSHIP QUALITIES HAVE A "SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL."
How absurd! Was Barak "deceived" when he took orders from Deborah? (See Judg. 4:14.) Did baby Jesus come under a harmful influence when Anna prophesied over Him? (See Luke 2:36-38.) Was Apollos spiritually emasculated when he submitted to the teaching of Priscilla? (See Acts 18:26.) Of course not!

To associate godly women with Jezebel, a wicked Old Testament despot, is unfair and offensive, yet men in the church today often pin Jezebel's label on strong, anointed women because they feel threatened by them.

Let's stop the insults. If a woman is using manipulation to usurp authority or if she is spreading heresies, then she certainly deserves the Jezebel label--as do men who do such things. But women who walk in spiritual integrity and preach the Word of God with power deserve our respect.

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J. Lee Grady is editor of "Charisma Magazine" and an outspoken advocate for women in ministry. His new book, 25 Tough Questions About Women and the Church (Charisma House), was released in April. www.spiritledwoman.com.

Viral Video - This Girl is on Fire From Twerking Gone Wrong

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 07:04 AM PDT

OK, I wanted to title this funny video, but maybe it's not so funny. A girl is drinking and dancing while enjoying the scented candles placed on her glass table. She decides to video herself twerking upside down against the door at the same time as her roommates walks in. What do you think happens? Watch the video. And yeah, the girl is OK.

Caitlin Heller says in a description of the video "I tried making a sexy twerk video for my boyfriend and things got a little too hot :) WOW! Didn't expect all this attention. I'm fine. Just a little embarrassed!! THX!!

Dear Myne - Our Different Religious Beliefs Are Almost Causing Us to Split Up

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 07:05 AM PDT

Dear Myne, this post couldn't have come in at a better time. My boyfriend and I are so in love & we plan on getting married. The only recurring problem we have is on religion. He's a christian & I'm not. & NO! I do not plan to convert before or after getting married. We both knew that fact when we met, became friends & got into a relationship. He was cool with it, but lately it's been a serious issue that almost broke us up & it scares me so much that it will sooner or later.

I do not plan to make him convert to mine though. In my religion, I have learnt that one's relationship with God is personal. I love God in my own way & I'm willing to let him & everyone else love God the best way they can. Everything else has been amazing (although we have little misunderstandings like every other relationship & we always sort those out).

I love this man so much & I'm not willing to let go. He's not perfect, neither am I. To be fair, I understand where he's coming from because there are questions like 'what religion would we raise our children?', 'where are we going to get married?', 'would Sunday mornings not be awkward?', etc. I've asked him to meet me halfway (although I really don't know what halfway is on this matter). I'm also scared that I'll become a different person from who he fell in love with if I choose to convert. We all know that religion shapes us all into the people we become.

My religious beliefs have shaped me into the woman I am today, the woman he loves & the woman he wants to spend forever with. It's all so confusing & It's been weighing me down every single day since the 'almost breakup' & I really don't want it to affect our relationship. I've seen some posts in the past weeks similar to this & I've been resisting putting it out here, but I just can't anymore.

Thanks Myne. I'm anticipating your reply. And to everyone who decides to add a comment on this, please be fair 'cause he'll be reading this too. Thanks!

Dante's Sunshine

This question came in under this post - changing your name and religion for marriage. My Response

Dear Sunshine, I agree with you that religion is a big part of who we are, but also we grow everyday. If we can go to school and acquire knowledge so easily, surely the least we can do is try to know more about the new religion? If it is something we can live with and train our children right within, then surely love should cover all. You know God is love in most religions :)

What I'm saying is this. Since your BF is reading too, both of you should try to learn more about each other's religions, don't be so hardline. Attend each other's services once or twice. This will help you make the decision on who to convert, you or him, and also whether it's best to stay with your religions knowing you now understand better and can live with separate religions. The discussion can now focus on how to bring up the children.

IMO, bringing up children in a specific religion is not meant to indoctrinate them to become fundamentalists, but to have a solid and moral background with stories and models on treating people right, and an appreciation of authority and God.

All the best as you make your decision.

A Bride and Groom-To-Be Get Creative with Horror-Themed Engagement Photoshoot

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 04:00 AM PDT

Are you tired of the same old same old, cute and sweet engagement shoots, where the best you can do is an outdoor motion shots? Huff Post came across a couple and their photographer that decided to get more creative. The bride and groom-to-be, Alexandra and Chris, are big fans of thrillers and horror movies and so suggested to their photographer Laszlo Bodnar to have a "Texas Chainsaw Massacre" feel to their photoshoot.

The photographer then decided to take their idea a step further by arranging the photos in a comic format with speech buble and sound effects for each frame of the pictires. So the amazing - or not! - shots are arranged comic-style below courtesy of ElevenPhoto.

What do you think? Inspired or hell no!? LOL...

Couple Love - Toke Makinwa and Fiance Maje Ayida at Alex Okosi's Birthday Party

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 07:07 AM PDT

Toke Makinwa and Maje Ayida were doing matchy-matchy in black over the weekend at the birthday party of MTVBase boss, Alex Okosi. Who was that who said something about Coke and Fanta, or was it Milk and Dark Chocolate about Yomi and Liz Black. These two have the same combo going on too...

Is Maje pointing to Toke or lovey-dovey Toolz and Tunde Demuren? LOL...

Covers - Mo Abudu on TW Magazine

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 10:19 AM PDT

Mo Abudu, who recently set up her own TV Channel EbonyLife TV, is on the cover of the latest Issue of TW Magazine and speaks about her fears and challenges and says to everyone who is looking to start a difficult project, "If you can see it, you can do it". Nice one.

Magazine Covers - Agbani Darego on the Iconic Edition of Genevieve

Posted: 10 Sep 2013 01:00 AM PDT

Agbani Darego won the Miss World Competition back in 2001 when she was still a teenager. Today, she has her degree, a career as a model and also has a fashion line. Kudos to her!